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Establishing "International Day of the Girl" - Make a Difference!

2011-03-09T19:36:00.000-05:00

CANADA ANNOUNCES SUPPORT FOR AN INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE GIRL

OTTAWA, March 8 /CNW/ - The Honourable Rona Ambrose, Minister of Public Works and Government Services and Minister for Status of Women, today announced Canada intends to support the establishment of an International Day of the Girl. The announcement was made during a meeting with young women from Plan Canada who are working to promote equal treatment and opportunities for girls around the world, including equality under the law, better nutrition and health care, equal access to education and training, and freedom from violence and abuse.

"Today on the occasion of International Women's Day, the Government of Canada is proud to encourage leadership among girls to strive for what they believe is right, and to inspire more ideas and support for girls to prosper and succeed. A girl who experiences equality has a greater likelihood of being self-confident and aware of her own potential, and of being empowered to access the education, training and career opportunities that will contribute to her success in life," said Minister Ambrose. "As Canadians we recognize that when girls have a solid foundation, with the best skills and living conditions, they can truly soar to new heights and contribute to the health of a nation. An International Day of the Girl can galvanize worldwide enthusiasm for these goals."

If adopted as a United Nations Resolution, an International Day of the Girl could be established as early as the fall of 2011. The idea was introduced to Minister Ambrose by a delegation of girls from Plan Canada at the 55th Session of the Commission on the Status of Women at United Nations Headquarters in February 2011. Plan International is promoting the establishment of an International Day of the Girl to raise global awareness of the unique challenges facing girls, as well as the key role they can play in addressing larger issues of poverty and development.

"The Day of the Girl would definitely spark discussions throughout the world about girls' rights, how girls are impacted by policies, the challenges that girls face. I would use the Day of the Girl as another opportunity to bring up the issue of girls' rights with my peers, in my community and to my leaders," said 17-year-old Rachel, a Canadian student involved in Plan Canada's Because I am a Girl Speakers Bureau.

"The Day of the Girl would be important because it would bring awareness to adults that girls are worth investing in. I think it is our right to be equal players in society and we need help to make our voices heard. We are relying on girls, boys, women and men to raise their voices on our behalf," said 11-year-old Madeleine, a Canadian student and youth advocate with Plan Canada.

Plan Canada is a non-governmental organization that aims to achieve lasting improvements in the quality of life of children, families and communities in developing countries. For more information, visit www.plancanada.ca.

To mark the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day, Canada chose as its 2011 theme Girls' Rights Matter / Les droits des filles comptent. This theme also aligns with the United Nation's theme, Equal access to education, training and science and technology: Pathway to decent work for women. International Women's Day and International Women's Week provide opportunities to mark the economic, political and social achievements of women and girls. Every year, Canadians celebrate this progress toward equality for women, and reflect on the challenges that remain.

For further information on International Women's Day and International Women's Week, visit the website of Status of Women Canada at http://www.iwd.gc.ca/.

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This news release is fanastic news! It just reinforces what our organization PROM Blitz Project does as far as empowering young women who have overcome challenges and need to be given confidence. Anything, no matter how small it seems...is something. You go girls!

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There is Help! Shelter & Outreach Program for Women & Children - Cover Your Tracks! Tips

2011-03-09T18:29:00.000-05:00

How To Cover Your Tracks - Internet Safety

To be safe, erase any record that you have visited the Women & Children’s Shelter web site. If anyone has access to your computer, they will be able to see which web sites you have visited unless you erase your tracks.

PC Windows – Internet Explorer
(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar. Open the Internet Options Dialog Box and select the General Tab.
Step 2: In the Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Files. Check the “Delete all offline content” and click OK.

Step 3: In the History, click Clear History.

Step 4: In Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Cookies and then OK.

Step 5: Click OK to exit the Internet Options Dialog Box.

PC Windows – Mozilla Firefox
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar, then select the Options.

Step 2: Click on the “Privacy” Option, with the picture of a padlock.

Step 3: Select the “History” tab. Click on “Clear Browsing History Now”.

Step 4: Select the “Cache” tab. Click on “Clear Cache Now”.

Step 5: Click “OK” to exit the Options dialogue box.

PC Windows – Netscape
(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Edit in the menu bar, then select the Preference.

Step 2: Under the Category, select Navigator. Then click Clear History as well as Clear Location Bar.

Step 3: Under Privacy & Security, select Cookies. Then click View Stored Cookies. Lastly, click Remove All Cookies.

Step 4: Under the Category, select Cache under Advanced. First click the Clear Memory Cache followed by the Clear Disk Cache.

PC Windows
(right click the mouse on the Start at the bottom of the menu bar, select Explore)

Step 1: Select Windows in the C drive.

Step 2: Open the Temporary Internet Files Folders. Select all the files inside this folder and delete.

Step 3: Open the History folder (e.g. c:\windows\history\today in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.

Step 4: Open the Cookies folder (e.g. c:\windows\cookies in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.

Step 5: Disable the Auto-Complete in the windows and/or browser options.

Step 6: Finally, after completed the above deletions, you should also empty the recycle bin.

Mac – Safari
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Go to “history” tab on the main menu.

Step 2: Scroll down to “clear history”.

Mac – Firefox
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Go to “preferences” under the “Firefox” tab in main menu.

Step 2: Click on “Privacy” tab then go to the “Private Data” section on the bottom.

Step 3: Click “Clear Now”.

Mac – Netscape
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Go to “Edit” menu and select “Preferences”.

Step 2: Select “Navigator” under the “Category” listing.

Step 3: Select “Clear History” in the “History” area.

Step 4: Click “OK” to erase history.

Remember:
When you clear the cache and the history list, you erase ALL information that had been previously stored there. If your partner notices that the cache and history list have been deleted, he or she will realize that you know how to delete your tracks as well as possibly thinking that you have something to hide.

A way to avoid suspicion is after clearing the CACHE and HISTORY LIST spend some time visiting sites that you think your partner wouldn’t object to. This way, the cache and history list start to get filled up and your partner might be less likely to notice that old information is missing.

Email
If an abuser has access to your email account, he or she may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that’s difficult to guess. If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, print and save the messages as evidence of this abuse and report it to police.

A woman’s partner can often tell when she makes up her mind to stop the abuse. Do not underestimate your partner. Always erase your tracks.

Telephone Safety
When you call the Women & Children’s Shelter, or any organization that assists abused women, you must be careful to use a telephone that will not keep a record of the number you called. If you call long distance, the phone number will appear on the bill. Even if you call locally, if you use an Internet-based telephone system, with a name like VOIP or SKYPE, records of the call will be kept. If your partner has access to the system he or she will be able to identify who you have called.

Cell phones can also keep records of the numbers that have been called.

A local call made on a regular telephone line will not produce a record of the call. However, many telephones have a “redial” button, and you may want to call a friend or other “safe” number after you make any call you don’t want your partner to know about – they can check up on you just by pressing “redial”.

One way to be sure your home telephone uses a regular telephone line is to check your telephone bill. It will come from a Telephone Company, such as Bell or Sprint. It will not list any local numbers, only long distance. If you still aren’t sure, you should use extra caution.

The safest way to call or to receive calls from us is from a friend’s phone, a public phone, a work phone, or any telephone that has nothing to do with your partner.

If you are in danger, call 911.

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New Years "Resolutions" Reality Check

2011-01-23T10:38:00.005-05:00

"Resolution", as defined as: a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.

How are you doing? No, really. Search deep down and be honest with yourself. How are you doing? We are now at the second last week of January and being January 23rd, we're either onto new habits or back to the old ones. Research shows it takes 21 days to break a habit. Did you lose faith in yourself? Have you been focused on your strengths or weaknesses? Did you set realistic goals? Are they YOUR goals or mirror of someone else's? Did you develop a plan? Did you set up a reward system for yourself? Did you visualize them or "just go for it"? It's NOT too late. Dust yourself off and get back at it again. Set yourself up for a "win-win" because you deserve every happiness in the world. Do not wait for next year to make a resolution. Dig deep and the time for whatever you want to change is NOW. Tomorrow is never promised to us. Heck, the next hour isn't even promised to us. We can set out on our routine, walk out the door and "smack", get hit by a car. Dramatic effect? No, reality. We never know what course or direction our lives are meant to take but wouldn't you rather make every day worth the day that you want to live and make good habits? No more negative self-talk or doubt. Are you tired of the same patterns? Tired of talking yourself out of things "oh, I can't do this" or "I always suck at this" "I'll never change". Time to start talking yourself into it instead of out of it. Wouldn't you rather be proud of yourself? There is nothing wrong with being your own cheerleader.

Ok...now go get lined paper or open up your Microsoft Word doc. Really...go get it and let's commit by writing this down. Lock yourself up for at least 10 minutes of total solitude and no disruptions. Hide in the bathroom if you need to. Right now, YOU'RE important.

STEP 1.
The first step in breaking old habits is deciding what new habits you want to create with your life energy. Start asking yourself these questions:

* What do you want your life to look like?
* What habits do you need to eliminate?
* What positive habits do you need to develop to make your life look like you want it to look?

These desires must be realistic and obtainable. What is your intuition telling you about what you should be doing?

Listening to your intuition is one of the most intelligent things you can ever do with your life energy. Your intuition always guides you in the direction that is perfect for you. It is that small voice that is not affected by egos, past failures, or other people?s opinions. It is your inner guiding light.

In your journal, keep notes on what your intuition tells you about the strategies and the resources that might empower you.

STEP 2.
Crystallize your thinking. Determine what specific goals you want to achieve.

What habits are you letting go?

What habits are you creating in place of the old ones?

Your goals need to be specific, measurable, and realistic.

To do this you'll have to avoid thinking like this: "I want to lose weight." What does that really mean? For your subconscious mind to be able to serve you it must receive very specific directions.

STEP 3.
Develop a sincere desire for the things you want.Desire is the starting point for all achievement. It's the greatest motivator of every human action.

Frequently, your mind is more motivated by pictures and visualization than it is with words and written exercises. The right side of your brain is where your creativity comes from, and it thrives on pictures. Many times the right side of your brain takes precedence over the left side, which thrives on words. In the past, you may have just written words down to reach your goals. Add this new dimension to your process.

Draw, cut out pictures, or take photographs of what you want in life. Put pictures up on your refrigerator, your bathroom mirror, on your smartphone, on your laptop, iPad, create a private photo album on Facebook or any place that will remind your subconscious mind of your desires to reinforce your goal.
Every thought you have uses electrical energy to imprint a new picture in your subconscious mind. The efforts of your subconscious mind are to match the pictures in your mind with reality.

The more you deliberately plant pictures of what you want, the faster you will attract it into your life. It's very important that you allow yourself to fantasize about what you want in your life - let your imagination run wild! This way, when you see the pictures so often, when you close your eyes you can see them. Create a reality.
To achieve what it is you want in life, you must think about it. There are no limits except those we put on ourselves. This is your life and you're only cheating yourself. You can tell people that you're succeeding at achieving your goal but if you're truly not...you're cheating and hurting yourself. No one else. You must feel your success before you can manifest it in reality.

STEP 4.
Develop a plan for achieving your goal, and a deadline for its attainment. The difference between a "wish" and a "goal" is that the goal is written down. Once you have a clear picture of what you want in life, your subconscious and conscious mind can work together to achieve it.

When you prioritize and focus you can literally see what you want; this gives you the power of concentration. Deliberate concentration is like a laser beam - it can cut through any obstacles in your path.

STEP 5.
Distinguish between goals and activities. A goal is the specific end result you want to manifest in your life. Activities are those things you do to achieve your goals.

Use the skill of awareness, and remember the goal. Don't get stuck in the activities.

STEP 6.
Create deadlines for your goals.
Without deadlines your brain doesn't have a clear picture of what you want created. Deadlines have a magical way of motivating us to produce results.

First write your *one-year* goals on paper, then write down all the activities you will have to do to reach each goal.

Start by asking yourself what is the very first activity I must do to get started on this goal? Then write down each following activity that will take you closer to the one year goal.

STEP 7.
Break down the activities for each goal into 3 month groups. Ask yourself "What are the activities I must do in the first three months to achieve my goal?" Write those down.

Then think about the activities you'll need to follow up in the following three months. By breaking down the goals into manageable, bite-size pieces, you'll feel more in control.

The secret is that this divide-and-conquer approach keeps achieving your goals from becoming overwhelmingly complicated.

STEP 8.
Make YOUR goals YOURS.

Time for a reality check. Don't set a goal for yourself that your spouse (or anyone else for that matter) wants for you. Revise your current goals to ensure they REALLY meet YOUR needs, not someone else's desires for you. You will never be successful achieving goals that are not motivated by your own desires. Moreover, don't compare your goals with other people's goals - you'll always come up short. The reality is that we usually compare our worst traits with someone else's best traits and we can never win that way.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others" Wishing you much success in health, wealth and happiness.....

Final Post 2010

2010-12-31T23:20:00.111-05:00

As I've been agonizing what my final post for 2010 would be (why, I have no clue why it would be "stressful" but did want my final thought to be "perfect"). There's no such thing as a "perfect" blog post as one is noting his/her own thoughts so unless posting something offensive, really there are no mistakes. However, I should warn you that this is not my usually light-hearted, positive post and going to be extremely blunt and to the point. One may call it an intervention if you will. The "why" is that it's time to implement change and going to be very direct and time for self exploration.

By now, everyone is posting well wishes and happiness. I want to repeat that I usually post about being positive, inspirational and being motivated. The repeated warning is that the intent is not to offend or for anyone to think "who the heck does she think she is". The words expressed here apply to all of us. For a moment, let's think about the glass being "half full" instead of looking at the glass "half empty".

Are you saying "thank God 2010" is over? Why? Weren't you just twelve months ago saying "thank God 2009" is over and 2010 is going to be an amazing year? Why? Let's analyze that for a second. Doesn't every year bring opportunity for renewal and growth? What is it about the fireworks at midnight the 31st of December that makes a person think "next year is going to be better?".

In the words of my eldest son when I was facing a personal milestone: "what's different about today than yesterday...you're still you". Very profound for a fourteen year old don't you think? A great way of putting things into perspective and allowed me to think he's right and it IS about mindset. It's about the choices I make, what I think, what I do...not about the actual calendar or time...it's how that time is spent.

In writing this blog, I'm also reminded of one of my best friends that actually did have "awful year" (because of deaths of people very close to him). Annually, he sends a letter to friends and family. In his newsletter he said he had considered giving it up. However, he dug deep and as much as his year didn't end the greatest, he was able to recollect other events throughout the year that were positive. It was a very eloquent letter and probably one of the best he's ever written. Gratitude shone through and showed that despite crises him and his family had endured, there were still positive things that made life worth living. As a friend, very grateful he was able to do it. This was a breakthrough for him and a very admirable quality in a person. No one said doing this would ever easy but with perseverance there's gratitude.

So, what's your "a-ha" moment? We all have to learn our "why". Underlying we all have a purpose, personal motivator and a why. Why do we wake up every morning and do the same mundane things? Are we happy? I mean are we truly happy or just putting on a brave face? Instead of looking at yourself five, ten years or so from now...where do you see yourself to be next year, at midnight on the 31st of December? If you see yourself repeating "Thank God 2011 is over" then really, things really need to change NOW and old habits need to be broken.

We all deserve every happiness afforded to us and the only people capable of truly offering this to ourselves....is within ourselves. When we look in the mirror, we all must love the reflection looking back because as we have self-love and have gratitude, only then can we truly shine and pass this onto others. Love yourself first. This is not being an egomaniac. Self-appreciation, exude confidence will radiate from you and you'll automatically attract positive people. People will notice the difference in you. Some may judge and criticize but why let them take that power and your happiness away that you're entitled to? It's your power to have.

I will finish the last post of 2010 on this note: my desire for you, if this post has touched you in any way, that you'll say the following words instead, on the 31st of December at midnight:
"What an amazing 2011 and can't wait for 2012 to be another amazingly great year".

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others" Enjoy this video below from an artist named "Chris Rouse" appropriately entitled "New Day"

Measurement Of Success

2010-12-14T12:21:00.001-05:00

Success...... what is your definition? Everyone's measurement of success is different whether it's how well children advance at school, financial success, material things, social "status", etc. What defines you?

Sometimes in relationships and friendships people come to crossroads. What one person may perceive is success may not necessarily be agreed on by other people. What do you do?

In learning motivational skills and to obtain success, people are taught to do "vision boards". If you have not done one, you really should. It's amazing how, when you're sitting down to analyze your "wants" it helps you get a clear perspective of your vision. It allows you to keep on track and even when you're away from it, can visualize your board. Now this vision board is a personal thing and one really should keep it private.

In going back to my second paragraph, what if another party sees your vision board? In remembering it's very personal to you, people won't agree with your vision or what they see because they have different visions themselves. What if, in the interim, that party sees something is "missing" and they're very close to you? Is it ok to be offended? Should that person make a comment or just be respectful and keep silent?

A lesson learned along time ago was that it's not about "intention" but realistically in our society, it's all about "perception". I've asked this question to a few people...."what would they do if they saw a vision board and they weren't part of it?". One response was "vision boards are something the person doesn't have and are visualizing things that are missing from their lives....whether material or otherwise.. They're not going to post something they already have." Great comment and suppose it could be summed up that way. However, I don't agree because that's not how I did mine. Again, different perspectives, different opinions. (At the end of this blog, I'm happy to share a bit of insight into my vision board.)

However, out of respect for friends and loved ones, perhaps best to keep the visual board private. It is so easy for people to be offended and also, people can be naysayers and/or try to alter you from your focus. This is the opposite of achieving your goals. You don't want this to happen and sometimes people need to realize that things aren't necessarily all about them. Even people with good intentions can "slip up" and harbour bad feelings and perhaps unintentionally say or do things that are hurtful. It comes with being a human being.

So a measurement of success, in my opinion, should really be about balance: family first, business, financial wealth, philanthropy, good health and friends. Material things are great to have and enjoy but remember; can't take them with us when it's our time to go and they're not what define us.

When it is my time to go, I'd rather be surrounded by great friends and family to say "what a great person she was, what a thoughtful person and great Realtor she was; what a charitable person she was and did so much for the community"....not what the size of my bank account was or "wow, she had a great BMW".

Happy to share a bit about my vision board....it has things I already have but because I want it to continue....it has a lot of happy, smiling people reflecting myself, family, friends, business associates that are in my circle and interact with me all the time. Only positive people with a great outlook. Why? This is the energy that drives me, fuels me and everything else I have on my vision board will come true and happen. I can close my eyes and visualize my own personal successes that I want to achieve and how I will reward myself each time. At the end of the day though, if I don't have my family there with me to share it with? Nothing I ever do would mean a thing. This is where the balance and perspective comes in.

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Dec. 6 – Canada's National Day of Remembrance & Action on Violence Against Women

2010-12-06T00:47:00.001-05:00

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence against Women. On this day we remember and mourn the loss of 14 women, murdered at Montréal's École Polytechnique, murdered because they were women. Please check your local areas for events.

More than 20 years after the tragic events in Montreal, violence against women continues to be a serious issue in Canada.

On Dec. 6, 1989, a deranged gunman entered L’Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal. He segregated the female students from the male students and began firing at the female engineering students.

On that day, 14 young women lost their lives to violence. The event has become known as the Montreal Massacre and is symbolic of the fight to end violence against women. In 1991, Canada’s Parliament declared December 6th a National Day of Mourning and the National Day to End Violence Against Women.

The facts:

Violence against women continues to be a serious issue in Canada:
•It is estimated that 60% of Canadian women have suffered from physical or psychological violence at some time in their life.

•In 2007, nearly 40,200 incidents of spousal violence were reported to police. This represents about 12% of all police-reported violent crime in Canada.

•Between April 1, 2007 and March 31, 2008, approximately 101,000 women and children were admitted to 569 shelters in Canada.

We remember the 14 lives lost. And there are other numbers to remember:

•Every minute of every day, a woman or child is being sexually assaulted in Canada•Homicide is the Number 1 killer of women in the workplace

•Homicide of women by firearm has shrunk since gun control - from 144 in 1989 to 33 in 2006

•582 missing and murdered Aboriginal women (and counting)

•Women with disabilities are 1.5 to 10 times as likely to be abused as non-disabled women, depending on whether they live in the community or in institutions.

•Each week, 1 to 2 women are murdered by a current or former partner

•Up to 360,000 children in Canada are exposed to domestic violence every year

•Physical and sexual abuse costs Canada over $4 billion each year

We make a difference when we speak out against bullying, harassment and discrimination of any kind.

We make a difference when unions raise the issue of violence at the bargaining table, or advocate for effective workplace violence legislation.

We make a difference when we raise strong, compassionate children.

We make a difference when we fight for women's equality and economic security.

Here are 14 actions you can take to help end violence against women:

1.Learn to recognize the signs of violence.

2.Don’t remain silent. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help.

3.Speak out against harassment, bullying and violence in your workplace.

4.Get training in violence prevention.

5.Be an ally to women and organizations who are working to end all forms of gender violence.

If happening in the workplace and Unionized, work with your union to:

1.Make sure your employer keeps information on shelters and supports for women experiencing violence readily available.

2.Negotiate a workplace violence prevention program which includes psychological harassment into your collective agreement.

3.Review your workplace violence program every December 6th.

4.If you live in a jurisdiction with Workplace Violence legislation, make sure your employer is in compliance. If you don't, advocate for legislation requiring employers to develop policies and programs to help prevent workplace violence and harassment, as well as take precautions to protect workers from domestic violence in the workplace.

Have the courage to look inward and work to:

1.Question your own attitudes and actions and work towards changing them.

2.Recognize and speak out against racism, homophobia and other forms of discrimination.

3.Raise non-violent children. Help them find non-violent ways of resolving conflict. Lead by example.

4.Help the girls in your life develop confidence and strong self-esteem.

5.Encourage people who commit violence to seek counselling and support.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Hey Landlords, This Will Encourage You to Want That Multiplex

2010-11-23T19:37:00.000-05:00

As you may or may not know, I am an advocate for women and children exercising their rights and opportunities to get ahead. I would like to explain this as I applaud the work that MPP Cheri DiNovo of Parkdale-Highpark does on their rights as well. Most especially because of her very humble and raw beginnings. Recently though, Cheri DiNovo, a female, NDP member of Parliament has done something that has totally struck a nerve.

She was a business owner and though her very private situation happened, it's not the case of everyone ** Perhaps she's taking things too far with a new Reading of a Bill to Parliament that just seemed to "slip by"

Landlords, as if things weren't tough already, read the Bill that somehow got under the radar: Bill 112, Residential Tenancies Amendment Act (Tenants' Rights), 2010

HTML Version

Here's the PDF

On September 16th: Cheri held a press conference at Queen’s Park calling for better tenants rights. Cheri is taking action on the bed bug issue by tabling a Private Member’s Bill calling for landlord licensing. On the panel were Kenn Hale from Advocacy Centre for Tenants Ontario (ACTO), Edward Lantz from Association of Community Organizations for Reform Now (ACORN) and Carolyn Peters, a rental agent who was told that she had to show apartments that were known to be infested with bedbugs. The Bill also calls for real rent control, extending protection to more tenants and improving access to justice for tenants.

Is the same woman that said in a National Post Interview back in May:

"We're politicians, we're important. We make these laws for other people, who aren't so important." *source below

An outspoken critic of The Municipal Property Assessment Corporation (MPAC) and the Ontario Municipal Board (OMB), Cheri has called for more affordable housing and action. Thankfully, she also calls for making amendments to the Residential Tenancies Act. Here are some of the following:

214.1 (1) No landlord shall enter into a tenancy agreement with respect to a rental unit in a residential complex containing six or more rental units on or after the day section 22 of the Residential Tenancies Amendment Act (Tenants’ Rights), 2010 comes into force unless the landlord has obtained a licence in accordance with this Part and the regulations.

(2) No landlord shall renew a tenancy agreement with respect to a rental unit in a residential complex containing six or more rental units that was entered into before the day section 22 of the Residential Tenancies Amendment Act (Tenants’ Rights), 2010 comes into force unless the landlord has obtained a licence in accordance with this Part and the regulations.

Now, I agree bedbugs have become a problem (and I would also say because certain things have been banned so we're not able to eliminate them). So be advised they're also stipulating that they will not renew your license:

5) The Board shall not issue a licence to a landlord who, at the time of application, (a) has not complied with one or more of the terms set out in a work order given to the landlord under section 225 if the time period for compliance with the terms of the work order has expired; (b) has not complied with one or more of the terms and conditions of an order served on the landlord under section 15.2 of the Building Code Act, 1992 if the time period for compliance with the terms and conditions of the order has expired; or (c) is party to a tenancy agreement with respect to a rental unit that is, in the opinion of the Board and subject to the regulations, infested with bedbugs, cockroaches or other vermin, regardless of whether the presence of such vermin is the subject of an order under this or any other Act, if the landlord has not, in the opinion of the Board and subject to the regulations, made sufficient attempts to eliminate the vermin from the rental unit.Refusal to issue licence (

5) Subject to the regulations, if the Board intends to refuse to issue a licence to a landlord under subsection

(6), the Board shall give notice to the landlord of its intention to refuse and the landlord shall have an opportunity to make submissions to the Board.Renewal of licence

(7) A licence issued under this Part expires two years after the date of issue.

TO BREAK IT DOWN, HERE'S THE EXPLANATORY NOTE THEY PROVIDE:

The Bill makes several amendments to the Residential Tenancies Act, 2006, including the following:

1. The Bill increases the time limit for most tenant and some landlord applications to the Landlord and Tenant Board from one to two years.

2. The Bill requires a landlord who terminates a tenancy for personal use to compensate the tenant and expands the circumstances in which a landlord is required to compensate a tenant if the landlord terminates a tenancy for the purpose of demolition or conversion to non-residential use.

3. The Bill prohibits a landlord from increasing the rent charged to a new tenant by more than the guideline and abolishes landlord applications to the Board for above guideline rent increases where there has been a significant increase in the cost of utilities.

4. The Bill requires that the Board dismiss an application from a landlord who has been given a work order under section 225 of the Act or an order under section 15.2 of the Building Code Act, 1992 and has not completed the items in the work order or the order.

5. The Bill requires a landlord to obtain a licence with respect to a rental unit in a residential complex containing six or more rental units in order to enter into a tenancy agreement or renew an existing tenancy agreement.

I agree there are some irresponsible Landlords out there but there are quite a few of us that are VERY responsible. To bring in rent control when costs to Landlords are already inundate with high costs would not bring in affordable housing and would do the total opposite if we have to spend more. We have the implementation of HST, rising taxes, assessments, utilities, etc

To Contact Your Local MPP, click here:

National Post Quote Source:
* http://network.nationalpost.com/NP/blogs/fullcomment/archive/2010/05/20/new-bicycling-law.aspx

** humble beginnings source: http://www.upwithwomen.com/Cheri.htm

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How To Be A Good Wife: Then (1950's) And Now (2010)

2010-11-22T23:23:00.000-05:00

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE: Then: 1950's and Now 2010

The following is supposedly an excerpt from a 1950's high school home-economics textbook:

- Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal -- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
- Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
- Prepare the children: take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
- Minimize all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
- Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
- Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
- Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
- The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Now: 2010 (Shannon's Version)

Have dinner ready: if possible, put whatever you can into the crock pot and have it on simmer so it's ready when you both get home from a long day of work. If possible, have the kids have the dinner table set and away you go to have a nice dinner! If they're old enough to make it and home before you are, even better! They have to learn how to cook sometime for when they're going to leave the house. If not, what's on the takeout/delivery menu OR if hubby is home first, ask what he's cooking.

Prepare yourself: you've had a long hard day at work or scheduling play dates, etc with the kids. Take at least 15 minutes to yourself if hubby's home and let him have the opportunity of catching up with the kids while you gather your thoughts and have some "me" time. If you can't have quiet time at home, just excuse yourself, go grab a Timmy's or Starbucks tea, juice or coffee and take a quick drive to a park or waterfront. Have a meditation CD playing quietly or just enjoy the silence.

Clear Away The Clutter: ah, everyone should take care of themselves. If they put it there, they can clean it up too. You're not a maid and they all have to learn responsibility and cleaning up! Make a chore list and have everyone scheduled to do certain chores. If you can afford it, hire a maid and you're helping to support another person and their business while they help make your life easier.

Minimize all noise: Ask Johnny to turn down the ear buds that is blaring his music and probably destroying his ear drums. Otherwise, everyone should run up to you (or dad) when you come home. If there's music on in the background, dance and say "oh yeah, let's celebrate - I'm home!" If hubby's home, great! If hubby's not home, great! Enjoy that one on one time with the kids or, just take that moment again for yourself.

Listen to him: well, if he's only going to grunt a few words when he comes home, then it won't take long. If you have to, grab a glass of wine so you can swish it in your mouth and preoccupy your mind

Make The Evening His: Go out with the girls for a "girl's night" or lock yourself in your bathroom with wine, candles, a good book and bubbles. I'm sure he can find something of his own to do. Get him the new "Maxim" or tell him the remote is all his for the night.

The Goal: to get through the fast paces that life has to offer on a daily basis with as much sanity as you can....all the while feeling a sense of accomplishment, purpose and hopefully hearing the words "thanks", "I love you mom", "I love you honey" and "you're the best"...even if you have to pat yourself sometimes. Everyone else will come around.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Do You Live Your Life Backwards?

2010-11-13T01:39:00.000-05:00

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards:

they try to have more things, or more money,
in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do,
in order to have what you want.

~ Margaret Young ~
How true this truly is! We are always striving for more yet never truly satisfied. How often do you strive for "things" or money but at the end of the day, they're just things. If we don't start within ourselves and genuinely happy, then it seems no amount of money would change that. Is that right?

I was flipping channels the other night as I wanted to unwind from my day. I see Robert Herjavec (of Dragon's Den Fame) on an interview and he said the most compelling words. Something like: ‘Your sense of worth is not the stuff you have, it’s the people you have.’ I thought for a long time I had to become rich in order to believe in myself. For my own well-being I had to become rich. I realized if you weren’t happy before you’re not going to be happy with a million dollars or a hundred million or five hundred million.'

Wow. These words hit me and are so very, very true. We must strive for internal happiness and if having regrets, negative feelings or ill-feelings of a situation or memory, it must be dealt with. Why? Because that feeling and memory will always be with you.

What's the point of striving for only monetary things if thinking that buying this "happiness" would make everything go away? At the end of the day, alone and looking in the mirror, if you're not happy then the image looking back at you will still be miserable and the feeling that something missing. As you read this blog you may think "no way, money would definitely make me happy and solve everything, she's crazy because it would make everything go away". You truly have to look within and ask yourself, would it really? Sure, it may help situations of affordability but look at Robert's words and he knows from personal experience!

I may not be "rich" or a millionaire monetary-wise but I can't complain. I am "rich" and blessed with so many things that I value in life and have my priorities. Family, friends, colleagues, networking group, investments, health and a great career that I absolutely love. What matters to me, may not matter to you which is what is great about this world we live in. Sure, I live in visions of wanting to create wealth like anyone else but I also have a personal "Belize" and reason why. Financial freedom for my future but also because I want to give back. My true hearts desire is to be a philanthropist.

Anyway, I want to leave you with a few thoughts and just remember:

"The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have."

So look deep within and do your best to change your attitude and take out any negativity in your life. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals and develop new patterns. Write down in a journal positive words you can use to replace things like "can't" "problem" etc. For example, instead of saying "problem" I embrace it and say "challenge" because in my mind, I love the challenge and it's something to overcome :)

For more on Robert, pick up his book. I did and it was a fantastic, inspiring and humbling read! Few tips he offered:

1. Get a handle on cash flow.
2. Find a belief and a purpose.
3. Don't fear the phone, ask for the deal.
4. Don't complain.
5. Give your kids a sense of worth.

I truly wish you much success in your journey of being who you really are, doing what you need to do, in order to have what you want!!

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Playing "Victim" and Who's Life Is It Anyway?

2010-10-18T13:20:00.002-04:00

People who play the victim game often point fingers at others as the responsible party for their situation that they're in now. How many times have we heard people say: "I'm so frustrated because...", "I never get a chance to...", "I am unhappy because...", "I can't have this because...", "Can you believe he did this to me? What a jerk. Now I can't..." "Can you believe she said that? What a b*. Now I can't..." " Ugh, my life sucks." or "I don't have a life."

But we do have a life, we do have many opportunities and chances to make a difference...not only in our own life but also the ability to impact others. This can be a positive influence or bad, but that depends on us. We all have the same amount of time given to us in a day and it's what we do (or don't do) within that time that makes a difference. Life truly is what we make it.

In our every day conversations we can sabotage ourselves. It's unfortunate that it has become "common" for such comments to be made and almost acceptable to blame others for not getting what they want and always complaining. Are we not responsible for our own opportunities (whether we take them or not), happiness, health, wealth and everything in our life? Isn't it our life and aren't things within our control? Haven't our parents taught us to be responsible and take accountability of our actions? Weren't we taught as children to face the consequences of our actions whether we did something bad? Weren't we rewarded when we did something really great? So if we're sitting back and blaming others for what is within our control then one isn't taking responsibility...just "passing the buck". Choices lie within ourselves and in essence, we truly can (and do) create our own destiny.

How many times have we said to ourselves: "I will be happy when... " (finish that sentence...whether new shoes, clothing, vacation, big house, expensive car, husband, wife, etc.), then we are looking at the glass as being "half empty" and cheating ourselves out of the wonderful things that we do have and all the wonderful things we have accomplished so far. Why cheat ourselves from that celebration? Isn't this what life is about?

At a younger age I was taught that life is a gift. Nothing is promised to us but it is up to me to be appreciative and grateful for every morning that I have and the gift of breathing another day. If you do not appreciate the present, how do you know when to be grateful and happy when you have the things you wanted or "wished for", yet still thinking there's always more. We'd be like that dog chasing our tail wouldn't we?

This is kind of in line with my "Frog" post. Here are some tips:

Be Clear on What You Want - write it down. It's private but create yourself a "vision" board. Whether on a Bristol board or download some photos and tuck away in a file on your computer, create the vision so you'll see it visually everyday. Focus on it. Create that vision so it's embedded in your brain as you continue your daily tasks.
Set Your Priorities - only you know what is important to you and only you can set those boundaries. Don't think of having "limitations" or you're setting yourself up to fail. Do something toward reaching your goal instead of nothing.
Get A Mentor - sometimes communication is a key factor but be guarded because there will always be a "nay-sayer" and this person will influence you not to achieve your goal. Whether your choice or vision is spiritual, financial, family or health, find someone with a common interest who can 'mentor' you and be support that you need to help you with your clear vision.
Write a Journal - keep track of your successes and "failures". There are going to be moments when that good ol' self doubt and sense of failure will set in. We do that self-talk all the time and come part of our daily routine that we can easily talk ourselves out of things and stop doing it. Create a journal of your emotions and focus on the positive and your rewards. Keeping your clear vision will help you "keep on, keeping on" so you don't talk yourself out of keeping your goal.
"Just Do It". You have to develop a take action mindset that you "can" and "will". The responsibility for achieving what you want lies within yourself. Just thinking about how you want to do something isn't enough. Nothing is ever a sacrifice and some things may have to be re-routed or altered but in the end, if it's achieving YOUR goal, you have to go the distance and do what it takes to get there. Don't set yourself up for failure before you even start. Just do it or you will be in the same situation and could very easily just talk yourself out of it.

If you have children, when you're disciplining it's not because you want to harm them, it's for their own good of moral values and responsibility, right? Why? You want the best for them, right? Why not wanting the best for ourselves? If you think of it as "tough love" for yourself then you should remain focused on your dream. If at any point through your journey you say "you can't" then you're right because you've just given up and set yourself up for failure.

Ever heard the saying "dream to achieve"... In order to do that you must stop the blame game, complaining, or making excuses about why you have not achieved what you want. Whenever you look in the mirror the person responsible for your life is the person looking back at you in the mirror.

If you're not going to take responsibility now for achieving what you want, when are you? There's never any "milestone" and the time for living your life is now. However, if that's what helps you set a goal so you have a time frame then set it, reach it and don't let anyone stand in your way. You'll be proud of yourself that you did! Remember, don't seek perfection and if you have to make "alterations" to your vision, keep looking at everything as successes. As long as you're on the path, keep persevering and you'll get there. Believe in yourself. We can be our own worst critics so starting with that changing that first mindset is definitely key. Perhaps it's fear of achieving your goal then you really need to sit down to at least half an hour of uninterrupted silence and evaluate what's important to you. Don't let self doubt set you up for failure before you start. YOU CAN DO IT.

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I'm Not This Frog, Are You?

2010-10-05T12:29:00.001-04:00

Question: There are 3 frogs on a leaf. If one of them decided to jump off the leaf into the water, how many frogs are there left on the leaf?

Answer: Three! Why? The frog only DECIDED to jump but it didn’t!

Dreaming of achieving personal accomplishments or goals, most people make the mistake of waiting.
Waiting until they’ve been trained more
Waiting until someone says they are ready
Waiting until they have the proper tools
Waiting until they’re better
Waiting until they’re hired
Waiting until they’ve been given the assignment
Waiting until they're successful
Waiting until they have more money
Waiting until the New Year and make a "resolution" to get that gym membership

Think about this my friends. Are you like that frog who decides to do this, decides to do that, but then end up not doing anything?

In life we have to make many decisions. Some are easy and some are definitely challenging and seem hard.

Most "mistakes" are not made by wrong decisions and sometimes they're not even "mistakes" but meant to take us to a different path, even if we can't see its value at that time.

Most "mistakes" are made due to our inability to take a right decision at the right time. You can educate yourself all you want to as knowledge is power but if you don't do anything with that learned education then what's the point?

We have to live with the consequences of our decisions. And that is RISK. The best thing that is going to happen to you? Success and happiness.
Happiness and success are truly your own measurement of what you want. Others don't walk in your shoes and can't define you. You're the one in control of your own thoughts, emotions and desires so why are you passing off your control?

If you have your own true level that you want to be at and not happy with results or daily life, then it's in your control to stop "deciding" and take action. It doesn't matter what area of your life it is whether financial/wealth, fitness/health, business, career, family, relationships, whatever it is in your life. It's personal and only you know. You deserve every happiness and success there is in life and the power to empower and create your life, on your terms is now. Don't just "think" or "decide".

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Narrow-Minded Thinking and Power of the Internet

2010-09-27T11:02:00.007-04:00

Well I guess this "small-time" girl with big ambition and drive had a wake-up call this morning. It's funny how one can think about things that they THINK they're going to blog about and then in one instant whether an action, call or thought can change all this.

In keeping with my "empowerment" I originally wanted to write to you about my nutrition plan and what steps I took to get into being a healthier me and that it wasn't about the "d" word (diet) but a chosen lifestyle. I think I will save this thought for another day.

Why? Because something "bigger than life" happened to me and I had an epiphany. I was asking myself "why blog?" Do I even have an audience or am I just typing words into thin air and what would make anyone in the world want to read my blogs over hundreds upon thousands others. What do I bring to the table? I'm just one person in this City just North of Toronto, Ontario, Canada. So out of curiosity I checked stats which I had never done before. I was amazed. To the readers that hail from my home Country of Canada that have freedoms, I thank you. For those that are reading from Italy, Australia, United Kingdom, Alaska, US, Poland, India, Ukraine, Russia and Philippines, a HUGE thank you and I hope that across the miles, you are finding some enlightenment, hope, humour and support from reading this.

So in knowing this, I feel a sense of responsibility and honoured with the opportunity of offering support and showing that everyone has the right to be free; a right to be empowered and know that whatever situation you're in there's hope. That no matter what challenges you face every day that the same patterns do not have to be repeated and no one ever has the power to tell you how to think because you are the only one responsible for your thoughts. For anyone reading this that is facing abuse whether physical or verbal or living in a Country where women are not treated as "persons" or facing persecution for even "looking at a man" and accusations of being unfaithful, I pray for you.

For those people that offer hope and support for these women and it sometimes feels like a "thankless" job (or volunteer work), keep on making a difference. For those that put their lives in danger to help people, thanks for making a difference. This world must be made a better place and we all need to reach out to each other whether in word or other actions, we have to make a difference. No one, whether female or male, should ever feel they're worthless or inferior. We truly need to watch our words and keep negative thoughts out of our minds and hearts and speak words of encouragement, love and support. We must always "pay it forward" and even if it doesn't feel like what we're saying or doing isn't making a difference, we have to believe IT IS touching the lives of at least one person.

I am truly honoured and humbled and no longer shall I be "narrow-minded" and think I'm writing in a cocoon. I trust these words find you well. Continue to look for strength and you can make any changes. Put yourself first. In the words of MJ and friends: "We are the world, we are the children; We are the ones who make a brighter day so lets start giving. There's a choice we're making, we're saving our own lives, its true we'll make a better day....Just you and me"

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Are You A Fighter?

2010-09-20T12:08:00.013-04:00

The heading is not what you think. Not fighting in the arguing, physical sense but a fighter?
First of all, before I jump into my blog, it's not really going to be a daily thing. It will be when time permits and also when I feel that I have a relevant thought or point. Don't get me wrong, I have relevant thoughts all the time but sometimes not so much in the "sharing publicly" and posting kind of way.

My passion is empowerment and women's rights on all accounts. My common-law husband makes cracks (not in a mean-spirited way) about my feminism and for years I shied away from being called a feminist. I didn't feel that I was doing some "all women - girl power" extreme and didn't want to antagonize any men that I have a great friendship and collaboration with but when I explore the definition of the word it is about empowerment and women's strength. In that, there's no shame. Women exude strength and have to endure so much responsibility. Don't get me wrong as there are fabulous men out there who can be great partners and share this responsibility but in the end, you know it's the women that are the one's to wear all the hats: mother, nurse, taxi driver, cook, cleaner, teacher, wife, employee, business owner, and the list goes on. If a single mother and no support, that list just grows.

My questions are: balance - how do we find it? When do we crack? When do we have time to crack? I guess this is up to the individual and truly is a time management thing. It is important to take time out of our day, even if for just two minutes to exhale and have a drink of your favourite beverage. So if you have to fight for that time, so-be-it!

Okay, I got off topic a little. The above kind of ties in but not the bulk of what carries my thoughts today. Am I fighter? In most cases, I pride myself on being that and would like to say yes. However, I have a confession. I have not lived up to my responsibilities or privileges. I am reminded by the video below just how much other women before me had to FIGHT for the right for equality to be called and regarded as a "person". They had to fight for the right to vote so that it would allow me the opportunities today to have a voice. If you can, minimize the video and listen to it as you carry on with other work. It's a really great listen.

How have I failed? I don't vote. I remember the excitement I felt at turning 18 and the right to vote. For years I faithfully did my duty only to see the politicians that were voted into office totally turn their backs on any campaign promises and what seemed to be self-fulfilling. I realize it's not possible to please every single person in the Municipality, Province or Country. (I'm sure that I will face criticism for my post but this is my personal opinion in which I am totally entitled to. I'm sure others may agree even when others may not.)

How do you choose? What do you do when you've lost faith in the people that don't do what they say they're going to do? People are people and there's human error or miscommunication. What if you know the person on a personal level and just can't get past their history or people they're associated with? There's some sort of lack of trust and you question what people's motivations are. Are they good intentioned and well-meaning? Do you befriend them anyway because "it's the political thing" to do and may need to call in "favours"? That's pretty shallow isn't it but also how the world runs right? Not what you know but who you know right? Why can we not change that? Do we just have to keep accepting it and shrug our shoulders in defeat that "that's just the way things are done"? Isn't your name your reputation? What do you want to put your name to? I'm glad I'm not American in the fact that I have to "register" and be a loyal and faithful Democrat or Republican. To be loyal to that no matter who the person is? At least we have a choice here in Canada in voting Liberal, Progressive Conservative, etc. (Ok, I don't exactly recall how US Politics works and would never profess to but I've seen many friends wear their Political stance and pride on their shoulders which has caused many an argument at parties if politics is discussed).

Sure, in some cases it's not the political person's fault when they have to have other members vote and agree but if the general population does not agree, why are "we, the people" not heard? Prime example? Look at the implementation of the HST and other things. Politics, in my opinion, is basically about who's the most popular and do people truly have our best interests at heart? I had the opportunity of working in Government and you had to shake so many hands, keep a smile on your face and be fake. I just couldn't do it. I wear my heart on my sleeve and though I'm not Simon Cowell, I have no problem expressing how I feel. (This is also another reason why sometimes I need to type and keep drafts instead of uploading the blogs right away..LOL).

So, the video below reminds me to be grateful. Women before us fought really hard. Should I still vote knowing how I feel? I don't want these women's actions to be in vain and know I need to be a fighter in all aspects of life. Other Countries are at war to have this right and fight to even have the opportunity or be heard!

I honestly don't know. This is a struggle that I will have to overcome but appreciate your comments and insight.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Question of Loyalty?

2010-09-08T08:58:00.007-04:00

Good morning folks!

As I'm sitting here drinking my coffee, going over and replying to emails and returning calls I'm reflecting on what I can write on my blog today. If I were to write on my daily thoughts then this blog would be an hourly thing and not daily!

I was thinking to myself "what do I want today's thought to be"? Then it occurred to me as I wrapped up a phone call and read multiple emails from various mortgage brokers that send me newsletters and rate info so I'll be in their network of referrals, which one of these mortgage brokers would I use and be loyal to?

Loyalty: the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.

Big word huh? "Failthfulness to commitments or obligations". Ok, we do that in our every day life, jobs, children, schedule, life. "Faithfulness", what about our partners in life? Ourselves? "Faith in ourselves" you're asking. Yes, ourselves. How many times have you said "I can't do that". You've lost faith in yourself and your desire to implement change, breaking old habits.
To our partners, there's so much deception and high divorce rates that it's almost become "acceptable". Everything takes work and unless it's abuse, why not try to work things out instead of being loyal and committed?

Business loyalty. Do commission-driven, career driven people lose their loyalty to colleagues and customers for the sake of getting ahead and making more money? Is that ok? In my opinion, no as it's unethical but you know it happens. The adage is "business is business" so apparently that's perfectly acceptable. Sure, that may happen one time but would you refer or ever use their business or that person again?

So it's a matter of perception and what I tell my children is that you get out of life what you put into it. I was told a long time ago by a very tough female american executive "Shannon, it doesn't matter what your intention is but what the perception of what people have about you". Well though people are going to conjur up whatever perceptions they have of you, you still have to be true to yourself. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and look in the mirror. It is just not possible to be everything to everyone and make them happy. It's just not. We're all made up differently with varying opinions so what one person may love about me, another person can absolutely detest.

So, loyalty. I'm loyal to myself and working in the utmost ethics I can. I'm loyal to my clients and customers because it's not just about the deal. My clients can attest to how I work. I'm loyal to my children and my life partner because I made that committment and strong in that character. When you make that firm committment, it makes life less stressful (at least I think) because there's no grey area. It's either wrong or right and no one has to backpaddle. If you know where your loyalties stand, and stand firm, no one can dispute that and then can hopefully say "wow, what an admirable trait". If someone doesn't understand, they're meant to be kept at arm's length because that's not the kind of person you'd want to be associated with or put your name to.

So for those mortgage brokers out there that just grab my email and send me stuff for the sake of creating their database, thanks for taking the initiative. In the end, I forward clients to Mortgage Consultants with whom I have a relationship with because my name is attached to them and I know how they work. It's about getting the best customer service and attention they deserve. It's not about me being #1, it's the clients.

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Empowering Yourself & Inspiring Others

2010-09-07T09:01:00.002-04:00

Well hello world!
Yes, here I am submitting my personal “blog” and joined the ranks of many.
I’m a real estate professional but want to do so much more. I’m full of so many ideas and being a wife, mother, ‘maid’, ‘nurse’ (someone has to kiss those boo-boo’s) and full time professional, well, let’s say I wear many hats. As a woman, who doesn’t?

How many times have you gone to an auto mechanic and the simple “oil” change for $50.00 ends up being $1000.00 because some “do-hickey” or Philange (as Phoebe from friends would say when she’s making up a name) didn’t work? How the heck do we know? We have to trust someone because we rely on our vehicle to continue to be “superwoman” and it’s a matter of safety.

Also, what’s the last investment you’ve made? Outside of that gorgeous pair of shoes, what have you done to secure your future or your “now” lifestyle? Hmmm..yes. This is not a “bra burning” exercise but as women, we’ve come a long way! We’re more equal than the times of our great-grandmothers or grandmothers but there’s still room for improvement! Love her or hate her, doesn’t matter but look at the accomplishments of Hilary Clinton! Not about the person but just the fact that there’s a women running! Do you think anyone would have imagined that back in the 40′s? I’m just so proud that someone is setting the precedent where those before trying to set the way in any aspect of equality (likeRosa Parks, Martin Luther King Jr, etc).

Anyway, that’s the purpose of my blog. It’s intention is to be an empowering source to encourage and unite women and/or women-friendly organization’s or people. Let’s continue to network and get the ball rolling. It’s not just about women in business but the whole circle of those we surround ourselves in. Let me facilitate or be the mediator to find common ground. Financial advisors, mortgage brokers, lawyer, mechanics, contractors, hvac, etc that are ‘women’ friendly. Don’t talk “down” to us or “take us”. You’ll get our business and more as we’ll build a referral network.

That’s how I do my real estate business. Live and work by referrals. Word of mouth spreads quicker. Do a good job the first time! Empowering Women (and men)!

It’s not just buildings, it’s building relationships! So, here’s to the “official” day one of something I’ve been working on for a long time. I surround myself by strong, independent, positive people. Let’s see how this grows!

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Empowerment - And What It Means To Me

2010-09-06T18:23:00.001-04:00

Working on my empowerment website and niche marketing has been very exciting for me. I’m reading a lot of books to reinforce not only what I know but to expand my knowledge and affirmation that this is truly the direction to take.

In reading “Rich Woman – A guide to investing for women (because I hate being told what to do) it was an eye opening experience. As a woman, wife, mother and business owner – it’s not wrong for me to want more! I am not the only one in this position to juggling the challenges (worthwhile challenges that is because I have chosen this life). I do want to have it all and I truly can!

I am truly grateful for everything I’ve accomplished thus far and there is nothing wrong with wanting more…wanting continuous financial independence and richness in life. Now this does not mean that I don’t want my husband but if something should happen, what’s wrong with being prepared? Absolutely nothing.

Having divorced from my first husband (because he wanted me to be a ‘trophy wife, be barefoot and pregnant and stay-at-home’ which personally wasn’t what I had planned for myself – though there’s nothing wrong with that if that’s your personal choice) left me as a single mom. I wasn’t afraid nor found it intimidating at all. Why? Because it was a necessity and my choice. We all have choices! I wanted a better life not only for me but my children. I was the one that these little eyes looked up to and depended on. It’s amazing how the adrenaline just sets it when it’s something that has to be done.

How many of us have sat back and said “I can’t afford it?” Like Robert Kiyosaki has said throughout his book in “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” is that we need to change our thinking and words. We need to remove “I can’t afford it” from our vocabulary because that means that we have given up and we’ll never try. We need to stop,think and say “How CAN I afford it?” I’ve truly adopted this thinking and appreciate the positive message I’m sending to my children and precedent that they’ll stop and think.

I totally disagree with a certain business coach and self-professed real estate ‘specialist’ (whom shall remain nameless because he’s local to me) and that his belief systems teach people just to “go out and buy that item no matter what it is, big or small because that will make you work harder to achieve your sales”. I mean WHAT THE HECK IS THAT ABOUT? Seriously, I have a vehicle that works, do I really need to go out and buy that BMW just for status so I can work harder to get myself out of debt? I don’t think so. This is the same person that thinks cold calling works. How many of you have signed up for the ‘do-not-call’, have call display; screen your calls and have your number blocked? Yeah, exactly, that’d be me too!

I digress….if you’re in debt already and worried about how you’re going to make your rent or mortgage payment or how you can afford your next grocery purchase, I would think that is necessity and motive enough.

So where I am going with this blog? Hmmm…..I’m saying that I strongly recommend the above two-mentioned books. Then when you’re done that, re-read and highlight because there will be something you missed. Then, as a woman I strongly encourage you to read: Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money. This book….this book I’m going to consider my bible in business and my life. Already I’ve stopped saying “Sorry”. Seriously, how many of us do that when we haven’t even done anything wrong? Read the book. That’s all I have to say. I’m buying that and Kim Kiyosaki’s “Rich Woman” book for all the wonderful women/friends in my life for Christmas. Yes, I feel that strongly about these books!

Then when you’re done that, read Don Campbell’s “Real Estate Investing In Canada” because this is local and gives Canadian information. He and his team have developed systems that work. Let other people’s experience be your guide. Don’t reinvent the wheel if you don’t have to. Absolutely be skeptical. Absolutely be resourceful, educate yourself and ask questions.
Then, let’s work towards on how you’re going to achieve your goals. Write down your “why’s” and envision what your rewards are going to be. Then google images if it’s something like a car, boat, house, apartment building, etc and print it off so you can see them every day. Leave yourself ‘stickys’ of positive messages on your mirror, at your front door, fridge, wherever you’re going to see it. Go on a debt and credit card diet. Envision it and achieve it.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Happy New Year!!

2010-01-04T23:15:00.002-05:00

Well it's another year that has passed! What's the verdict, 20-10 or two thousand and ten? Whatever's easier but my vote is for twenty-ten :)

So much to talk about. I'm sorry I haven't been on much. Not sure if I had followers as it's hard when you don't have feedback. However, I'm feeling inspired since watching the movie "Julie/Julia". Did you get a chance to see any movies over the holidays? If so, that's a definite one to see as well as "AVATAR". If you get motion sickness easily, don't see it in 3D (however this is the best way to view it).

How were everyone's holidays? It's so challenging after some well-deserved time off to get back to routine and the swing of things isn't it?

I know I'm blogging rather late. I promised myself I'd get one posted today. So at the moment I'm up and watching "Top Gun". What a classic! Boy, everyone looks so young!

So I tried a new Christmas present I bought for myself (sometimes you just have to). On the advice of my boyfriend, I purchased a "Paderno" pot. I know, exciting right? Let me just say, I'm not very domestic. I love the idea of doing things like being "homemaker" but didn't really have the knack like my grandmother. However, there are few things that I really enjoy and cook really well. Things like my spaghetti sauce, chilis, Mexican dishes, stews, etc. I never really knew how important it was to buy a really good set. So we were at the Bay (and he used to be a professional gourmet chef) and on his advice he said to buy it. Normally I would not spend over $100 for such a thing but The Bay had a great Boxing Day sale so we got it for about $50. Let me just say that I used it for the first time today and it was JUST AMAZING. Wow, I really do sound like a domestic diva now don't I? ha-ha. Well, what a difference it truly made in my stew. Makes me feel truly inspired to cook!

Well, that's about it for now. I don't want to overwhelm and will have much more to type about later.

Signing off for now and wishing you much love, peace, success and happiness!

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Charity Drive – To Benefit the Local Women & Children’s Shelter

2009-11-08T14:47:00.006-05:00

Charity Drive – To Benefit the Local Women & Children's Shelter

This is how you can best help the Women and Children presently living in the shelter, or those who have left the shelter to begin life as a family, free from abuse? Sometimes the hardest step is taking that first one to leave, with nothing and having to start over. It's the first step in the right direction…

The Women's Shelter is a non-profit organization. Shannon Murree of RE/MAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage is organizing a Charity Drive and need your help!

Below are some items that are truly needed.

You may think of others, feel free to donate whatever you can.

For The Women:
Gift certificates (groceries, WalMart - these do not expire.)
Pajamas, nightgowns, robes, slippers, socks, and underwear- all sizes
Small household items-dishes, cutlery, pots & pans, coffee makers, toasters, cooking utensils, baking pans/sheets
Bus passes and phone cards are very much needed
Notepads, address books, day timers and books for journaling
Toiletries – deodorant, toothbrushes, toothpaste, perfume or gift packs

For The Children:

Teen boy, teen girl and infant gifts are especially needed

Notepads, books for journaling
Gift certificates from music stores, theatres, restaurants, sports Centres, clothing stores and WalMart
Bus passes and phone cards (quite often this is required for safety)

For The Shelter:
Sugar, tea, hot chocolate, juice, bottled water
School lunch items (drinking boxes, snack foods, health bars etc, puddings, fruit cups etc.)
Meat - pork, beef, chicken etc. (or grocery gift certificate/gift cards)
Juice, canned vegetables and fruit, cereal, pasta sauces, canned pasta, condiments, (mustard, relish, ketchup, pickles)
jams, jellies, baking items
Diapers, (size 4,5,6) baby wipes, baby monitors
Gift certificates to purchase formula ie. Shoppers Drug Mart or WalMart
Blankets and/or Single Bed Sheets
Clock radio's, hair dryers, curling irons, hairbrushes, combs
Shampoo, hair conditioner, mousse/gel, hair accessories, toothpaste, handsoap
Kleenexes, towels/ face cloths, bath mats
Wrapping paper, tags, tape, gift bags

Anything, is appreciated and whatever you can afford to offer can be used.
These women have made a difficult choice and starting with nothing.
**ALSO ACCEPTING**
GENTLY USED, NEWISH LOOKING WINTER COATS/MITTS & BOOTS
HAVE YOUR CHILDREN GROWN OUT OF THEM? PLEASE BRING THEM BY!

**deadline is Saturday, December 5^th, 2009**

Drop off donations at one of the following RE/MAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage locations at:
152 Bayfield Street or 12 Fairview Rd (Barrie),
2 Summerset (Angus),
1070 Innisfil Beach Rd (Innisfil)

If you prefer a cheque, financial donation or gift card, please contact me (Shannon Murree 722-7100) to arrange pick up as we do not want this dropped off at the Remax office

(If you're out of these areas, please contact your local shelter and help to make a difference please.)
Thank you!

Shannon P Murree

Buyer Representative REMAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage 152 Bayfield St, Barrie, Ontario Phone: (705) 722-7100 or (416) 362-7100

Still In Shock...RIP Michael Jackson

2009-06-26T23:50:00.005-04:00

I know there's a lot of controversy...it's about the artist and entertainer.

For me, as a young girl, I was mixed and he broke down racial barriers. I was a dancer and choreographer, and his music and moves influenced me as an artist. I'm still a loss for words.

RIP 1958-2009

Thank you and yes, "I will remember the time when we first met"...

Don't Stop Til You Get Enough

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_hz2am90Hk

Beat It

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uqxo1SKB0z8

Performance on "Soul Train" (original) with J5

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ffHUlI0E_hA

MJ performs at "Soul Train" 25th Anniversary:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQiB7SroDQk

Montage of dance moves....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKBLxh3u0tM

Speed Demon Dance

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF1kVZz6ag8

THE MOON WALK/BILLIE JEAN (Live)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7MmEMrCRfc

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Gratitude - Open Letter to my children

2009-06-12T15:36:00.007-04:00

I remember a few years ago when I had the time to watch Oprah. I recall an episode about a writing a journal and book of gratitude.

I'm reminded again about writing and thinking of something to be thankful for.

It seems that our days are so stressful. We're mothers, teachers, drivers/taxis, home maker, employee, boss, sportsmoms, oh the list goes on and on. Some days we just want to just retreat in our little corner and scream don't we? Then there are those other times that we look down at the little people we have (meaning our children...if you have any), or look at a family member or just someone that blesses us in our life. Thank goodness for those people that just love us and make us feel good. Thank goodness sometimes for the runny noses and the feeling that we're needed, that we're loved.

As I face the challenges sometimes of the teenage years ahead of me, I'm trying my best to be calm and learning real fast that the disciplining for my five year old doesn't exactly work the same on my thirteen year-old anymore. It's not just the "because that's the rules". The older ones are struggling with their independence and they seem to want an answer and justification as to "why". I've struggled with feeling that I don't feel like I need to give a reason but lately I thought, why not?" They're not being rude or demanding and just curious my reason. So lately I've calmly and rationally given a slight insight and trying to offer them options. Why? Because one day they're going to be a parent too and I want them to understand the reasoning.

My children, are good children. I'm blessed and proud. No one is perfect obviously but my little people are trying to respect the rules and come out ahead as far as being independent.

I realize this blog may be a little bit all over the place today. That kind of goes inline with my thought! So, I guess I'm trying to say, parenting is hard. Parents, you're not alone if you're having a rough day. Just keep trying to communicate. I'm learning and thankful we're making some break-throughs. I don't miss being a teenager that's for sure!

So to my children, here's an open letter:

I'm grateful for you and love you. No matter what
happens and I know what you're going through. I'm always here to support you and
most of all will do my best to listen. Please come to me no matter what and
always tell me the truth. I can't promise that I won't get mad, but as a mom,
always have your back and will do my best to be patient and understanding.

I want you to know that my door is always open and that
you always have a place to come to for support. Even if you don't need me to say
anything and just want to vent, I'm here. There are so many pressures on you as
young people. Even if you just need a hug and just had a crappy day and can't
explain it, I'm here. You've got all those emotions, hormones, social stuff etc
all going on.

I pray you don't get into "the wrong crowd" and that
you never feel afraid to stand up for yourself and strong enough convictions to
walk away from a situation you're not comfortable with. I can only hope that the
more I let you go to be independent, strong young people, that you make the
right decisions and that as a parent, I've done my job.

Love you guys! You're the best. Thank you for blessing
and enriching my life. There's no other love that's unconditional and the bond
between parent and child is amazing and unbreakable.

Love,
mom
xo

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

YEAH FOR LONG WEEKENDS!!

2009-05-16T12:46:00.000-04:00

Sorry for the caps but I'm just so excited. It's our first long weekend which signifies summer! Okay so the weather isn't super, super great but I'm going to be thankful that I'm not going up "north" and doing all that travelling. I'm in the good City of Barrie and we have our beautiful back yard all set up with our deck, patio, gazebo, hot tub and ready for our own personal little getaway!!

I'm really looking forward to having a few friends over. What are everyone's plans? I would love to hear what your plans are? Having company over? BBQ? Travel? Opening up the cottage? Going to a friends cottage? The opportunities are endless aren't they?

So grateful for the opportunities that exist. Do you know the meaning of Victoria Day. Now it isn't really "May Two-Four" is it?

Well, whatever you do and however you're meant to celebrate, I hope you have the chance to enjoy with friends, family, etc.

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

Looking Forward To Summer, Aren't You?

2009-05-14T12:30:00.002-04:00

WOW!
What is going on with the weather? I'm totally looking forward to the weather getting better and having some sunshine back in our lives. It's amazing how it affects us all and how we all seem to be in better spirits.

I do my best to be in a positive frame of mind no matter the weather but no one's perfect and it is challenging. No one can truly be "up" all the time and you have to wonder what they're up to or rather, how is it truly possible to have that kind of disposition? It's not possible and we are human.

Well, how has everyone been doing? On the real estate front, the mortgage rates are still the lowest we've seen and I still firmly believe it's a great time to buy. If you've been thinking about a first time home buying option or upgrading to a 'newer', bigger home; it really, truly is a great time. I've been thinking about it myself but for me personally, how does one make the time to move and keep up a busy, challenging career?

I know I'd like to have a bungalow. Right now I have a two storey right now which has a lot of space and everything for us and the children. There's just something glorious and spacious about a bungalow though. The open concept and everything is just spectular. I'll know "it's the one", when I see it. I'm not a big mover either and like to give the children as much stability as possible. I love my neighbourhood too. Well, I guess I'm not moving any time soon. LOL

Income properties are good to buy too. I've been working with a lot of investors and they're definitely taking advantage of the prices. I'm pretty much a full service real estate professional. I have experience with rentals, investments, commercial properties and pretty much everything real estate related. I've either experienced myself or been educated to know. Also have other professionals in our REMAX office so you'll have the knowledge and experience of many.

Let me know if you have any questions. Remember, if you have a written agency contract with an agent, you do have to go through them though. However, if you're not, feel free to contact me and happy to help whatever your real estate goal!

Blessings all and have a great day!

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

Happy Mother's Day

2009-05-10T12:20:00.001-04:00

AMAZING!!!
I LOVE MOTHER'S DAY!

Well, mother's day is upon us so let's hope for some nice weather and fantastic day to our mothers. So, "happy mother's day" to all those whom are mothers, grandmothers and those that were born to a mother. LOL

How are you going to show your mother or grandmother love? Any special plans? Are you a mom? Would love to hear your stories.

Blessings to you my Grandma (RIP) and to my beautiful mother...where would I be without your full love, support and friendship?

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

Opportunities Exist - What are you waiting for and what paths will you choose?

2009-05-07T14:22:00.003-04:00

It's been incredibly busy for real estate and I've had to evaluate the best use of my time. I'm very customer service oriented and had to ensure my time was not taken away from that.

I cannot get over how things are going in real estate. I do not see any change in the season and real estate at all! Given the prices, it's a great time if someone is either thinking about investing or wanting to upgrade their present home. This seriously is not a sales pitch. It's the truth and I'm seriously considering upgrading to the bungalow and home I really want. Before the prices were much higher and seeing a really, really good balance and stabilization. And the rates? The best, historically they've ever been! I suggest a variable rate, if you're good at watching the market and then LOCK IN!

If you can, try keeping your existing house and rent it out! If you can't, ensure to have it priced just right, in comparison to others in the market and "competition". This will secure it's saleability and hopefully not sit on the market too long.

I am speaking from personal and professional experience. If you've been thinking about investing, now really is the time! We won't see this for too much longer as people are putting their faith in things again and we're truly seeing a lot of development here in the Barrie area.

Anyway, I'm linking an event I have every intention of going to. I'm a fan of the Celebrity Apprentice and watched the Executive from Zappos in the episode. Outside of the odd endorsement from Scott Hamilton for the girl "eeeeeeee" and Tom Green's emphasis and ridicule on that, it's really stuck in my mind the amazing transformation and success of this online company. I'd love to hear him (Alfred Lin) speak as he's one of the keynote speakers. I also love the opportunity of networking with other real estate professionals and keep up-to-date technology-wise to see what's going on out there. Sure, I can google online, etc but better to try and be ahead of the game and get some real insight. That's some of my reasons, if you're a fellow professional, what are yours?

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine and remember, if you're looking to buy, rent, relocate, sell or invest in Barrie, give me a call and feel free to utilize my resources, experience and knowledge!

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

"Sexting" & What You Need To Know

2009-04-30T00:10:00.002-04:00

The title has the link to the story about a teen committing suicide from a "sexting" incident. Until today, I have to admit that I never heard of this before. WOW! What the heck is going on and boy, how the world has evolved! I don't know about you but I remember growing up and as teenagers, there was peer pressure sure, but I can't imagine what our teens and youth are going through in this day and age. Most especially with the viral videos and way technology has come, who knew it'd take on the way it has. Incredible.

My heart goes out to this mother whom lost her only child so unnecessarily. She lost her beautiful daughter because she (the daughter) had poor judgement. The teenage girl sent a nude photo of herself to a boyfriend. They broke up and of course, the boy chose bad judgement and shared the photo with kids from school. She was called horrible names and labelled her. Just so sad. The girl missed school and her heart was broken and terribly embarrassed. In the end, she hung herself in her room.

Apparently this is an epidemic....this "sexting".

WHY, WHY, WHY Girls? Not only can you ruin your reputation, did you know you could also be arrested for distributing child pornography?

Don't give anyone the power to call you names. Everyone has their own insecurities and because they don't feel good about who they are so they want to put down others.

Here are some sexting statistics*:

The percent of teenagers who have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves:
20% of teenagers overall
22% of teen girls
18% of teen boys
11% of young teen girls ages 13-16
The percent of teenagers sending or posting sexually suggestive messages:
39% of all teenagers
37% of teen girls
40% of teen boys
15 Percent of teenagers who have sent or posted nude or seminude images of themselves say they have done so to someone they only knew online.
48 Percent of teenagers say they have received such messages
71 Percent of teen girls and 67% of teen guys who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content say they have sent or posted this content to a boyfriend or girlfriend.
21 Percent of teenage girls and 39% of teen boys say they have sent such content to someone they wanted to date or hook up with.
44 Percent of both teen girls and teen boys say it is common for sexually suggestive text messages to get shared with people other than the intended recipient.
36 Percent of teen girls and 39 % of teen boys say it is common for nude or semi-nude photos to get shared with people other than the intended recipient.
51 Percent of teen girls say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images; only 18 % of teen boys cited pressure from female counterparts as a reason.
66 Percent of teen girls and 60% of teen boys say they did so to be “fun or flirtatious”; their most common reason for sending sexy content.
52 Percent of teenage girls used sexting as a “sexy present” for their boyfriend.
44 Percent of both teen girls and teen boys say they sent sexually suggestive messages or images in response to such content they received.
40 Percent of teenage girls said they sent sexually suggestive messages or images as “a joke.”
34 Percent of teen girls say they sent or posted sexually suggestive content to “feel sexy.”
12 Percent of teen girls felt “pressured” to send sexually suggestive messages or images.

For Canadian content about sexting, click here.

So, just thought I'd pass the info on in case you were like me and hadn't heard. Just another thing we can try to educate our children on and hope that if they ever do, they can stand tall and just "own it" so hopefully the embarrassment will go away quickly.

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****
*US Stats

http://myempoweringwomen.blogspot.com/

Wow! Interesting Story - Aren't we in the year 2009?

2009-04-27T00:34:00.000-04:00

Wedding dress protest highlights immigration problem (click on my title above if you want to read the full story)

Synopsis: Canadian woman had a relationship with a man from Guinea for three years, marries him in Canada and he leaves her after 4 weeks marriage. She says her "marriage just fell apart" and feels it's marriage fraud. AND (this is the kicker), she's still on the hook for three years for him financially as his immigration sponsor.

The immigration contract Towell signed stipulates she's on the hook
financially for three years if Soumah applies for social assistance, whether or
not they're still married.
Immigration Minister Jason Kenney announced last month that he's working on a plan to crack down on immigration fraud.

Well, at first I thought, how could she know? It says she had a relationship with him for three years (doesn't say whether correspondence or if she was physically with him there). I can understand she probably feels offended and hurt. What I'm shocked about is that Canada doesn't have parameters in place for something like that. So now this woman is on the hook AND it would appear he abused the system and using her. Why should she be on the hook? There are so many things unknown and can't make anything conclusive from that article anyway but definitely......wow! That's totally backwards in this day and age, in my opinion.

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

Are Women Too Independent?

2009-04-26T01:18:00.003-04:00

Are Independent Women Too Strong for today's Man?
Can strong women be too independent?
Should married women have their own bank accounts or does that mean they aren't committed to the marriage?
Are strong women.... married or single... TOO strong for today's man?
Should finances even play a part in relationships or does that kill the romance?

We have seperate bank accounts and one for house expenses. I much rather have it that way though I know a lot of people ask my why we do this. It's my Independence and I have my own earnings and don't feel I need to justify what expenses I pay. I pay for all the children's things (school supplies, lunches, sports, shoes, clothing, etc) and have my own business to run. I've set my own budget and if I want to buy a pair of shoes or pack of gum, I do so.

When we go for dinner, we go Dutch, or I'll treat or he'll treat. We have open communication in our relationship and trust me when I say it was a lot of growing pains and finding balance but after seven years, we've pretty much got all the kinks work out. Honestly, it causes less fights too and in my opinion, no, doesn't make me any less committed to my relationship.

Well that's my thoughts on that for now. It's late and just thought I'd blog because I couldn't sleep. Would love to hear your thoughts!

****Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

Good Day! Just Some Catch up for this week!

2009-04-23T12:36:00.004-04:00

Hello and sorry I haven't been blogging regularly. How has your week been so far? It's been some great real estate times as of late and very busy (and fighting a horrible, horrible flu and had no voice)! So I will condense my blog from my recent daily events and what's in the news, etc.

Alright, following my "Twitter" comment. I still appreciate the comments I saw by Ashton Kutcher and as much as I've been trying, just don't really, really see the hype as being valuable to me and my business. I appreciate so much it gives me a "voice" but if you don't have a huge following, who's there to listen? LOL I'm just a local girl from Barrie with big ideas and inspirations but really, my ultimate goal is to help people accomplish their dreams with real estate whether residential or investment, raise great kids, have a happy home, loving family, partner, save the world, empower women, okay, okay. I'm getting carried away. Anyway, how I can accomplish that in 140 characters or less is beyond me. I'll keep at it but really much prefer the personal, direct, social interraction.

Read an article in "The Star" today. I'm not going to post the article here. You can go to the link. Okay so people like me, my office IS my car. So I'm ALWAYS on the phone. I understand people are distracted. I know how to multi-task and the ear piece things, well my ears are too small for any of them to fit. I like the speaker one I have on my visor but it doesn't eliminate sounds and not practical to use when I have clients in my car. I will comply with the law of course and hope it will keep our streets safer (until they realize that it's just poor drivers with bad habits & re-testing after so many years should be MANDATORY). Another comment I'd like to make from the article, I'm also very glad to know that Emergency Crews are exempted from the Law and may continue to text message as they're doing 100 KM in our City Streets while going through the red lights and intersections. That's very comforting to know (and does anyone think these things through when they're doing exemptions? I have friends that are police officers too & why anyone text messages while they're driving is beyond me) Anyway.....

Hmmm...interesting poll I read about too:

A poll released today by the Ontario Real Estate Association (OREA) indicates that two-thirds (65%) of Ontario's principal residence homeowners oppose the recently proposed McGuinty government mandatory home energy audit program and instead overwhelmingly favor voluntary audits (92%). For more info and source, click here.

Some interesting events:
World Malaria Day in Barrie Event info here (may direct you to facebook). Great cause scheduled for this Saturday, April 25th.

MP's Annual Pancake Breafast this Saturday, April 25th (morning) to encourage our TIFT (Talk Is Free Theatre) and Physician Recruitment. Info here (again may direct you to facebook)

Also, working on some great Community projects but can't comment specifics on it yet. I'm really excited continously exploring my volunteer time and giving back to my Community. I hope to change lives and inspire. There was a woman and her child that came in the other day and had just left the emergency shelter. Tough times for people and will take some time to find more balance.

Also, summer coming means more drinking so there may be more signs of abuse. Don't take it, get out.

TO EVERYONE: Keep strong, safe, healthy, happy and keep finding your inner peace for balance. Hope you have a wonderful day and if you're out there and taking your time to read my blogs, thank you!

***Empowering Women, Inspiring Change****

I'm Really Trying but Twitter? Why the Hype?

2009-04-17T11:19:00.003-04:00

Seriously, I try to keep myself up-to-date on technolgy-related devices and programs in this day and age but "Twitter"?

I've had my account for awhile now and log on periodically. Most recently with Ashton Kutcher and his wife Demi Moore plugging and plugging it they're making it ok for Celebrity to "tweet" and the talk shows are talking about it and making it competition. Alright so they've used their celebrity for good and bringing awareness and getting donations for mosquito netting to prevent malaria (here's the link if you want to help). For that, they get my kudos but otherwise in my opinion as Weird Al Yankovic greatly said this morning "Hello my stalkers"....he's right!

I have myspace, facebook, this blog, my website, papers, etc and I'm readily available. It's actually kind of scary when you think about it to have all your personal info out there. At one when point does this stop? It's only one social program after another, after another and I'm quite surprised at the popularity of Twitter.

Here's Twitter's account of "Why Twitter":

Why? Because even basic updates are meaningful to family members, friends,
or colleagues—especially when they’re timely.
Eating soup? Research shows that moms want to know.
Running late to a meeting? Your co–workers might find that useful.
Partying? Your friends may want to join you.

Alrighty then. Well for those that need to know, I'm Shannon Murree and with RE/MAX Chay Realty. I'm a real estate representative and I help people fulfill their dreams with residential or income properties. I have a family, have great friends and live in Barrie. I think that's all people would want to know! I don't believe I do anything that requires an up-to-date, to the second account of my daily activity like "I'm eating soup and my mom wants to know". If my friends need me they text me.

Well, if you want to find me and follow me on Twitter (I'm "RealtorChicky"), as a courtesy I will follow you back but you'll probably get more detailed info by following my blogs or find me on facebook.

There's no way to figure out whom are imposters or real celebrities except for the obvious ones promoting themselves. Otherwise, if you're big on Twitter and "get it", great but otherwise I think I have more important things to do than spend every second there and think my clients, friends and family will be much more happier with me being available to them in person and be productive.

On another note, hmmm....stock options?

Much success always!
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No Matter What Age - Don't Give Up Your Dream

2009-04-15T23:06:00.003-04:00

Truly, truly inspirational! It just goes to show how we're so quick to judge by outer appearance. It's not right and you may not admit you do but c'mon...you do! Well, it's an amazing performance. Anyone remember Paul Potts (from the same show). If you don't, you MUST google him. Gives me goosebumps! Click above on my title or the photo for the video of her singing and, here's the rest of the story from the Toronto Star:

A middle-aged volunteer church worker with the voice of an angel is Britain's
latest unlikely showbiz star.
Susan Boyle, 47, wowed judges and audience
alike when she performed on the television contest Britain's Got Talent.
By Tuesday, a video clip of Boyle's performance on Internet site YouTube has been
watched more than 2.7 million times.
The unemployed Scot, who said she'd "never been kissed," drew titters when she told the judges her ambition was to be a professional singer.
But her soaring rendition of "I Dreamed a Dream"
from the musical Les Miserables astonished the show's hard-to-please
judges.
They were captivated by the singer from Blackburn in western
Scotland. Usually acerbic judge Simon Cowell dubbed her singing
``extraordinary." Fellow judge Piers Morgan said her "stunning" performance was
"the biggest surprise I've had in three years of this show."
The show, the first in a new series of Britain's Got Talent, was watched by 11.4 million of Britain's 60 million people on Saturday night.
British bookmakers made Boyle the early favourite to win the series.
She is the latest in a proud tradition of underdogs who win the heart of the British public.
Britain's Got Talent made a star of its first winner, an unassuming mobile phone salesman named Paul Potts. He wowed audiences with his rendition of the aria "Nessun Dorma" and has become a global recording star since winning the series – and signing to Cowell's record label – in 2007.

Shannon Murree

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Passing Of A Friend and Colleague - Celebration of Life

2009-04-15T12:02:00.003-04:00

Tim Musselman 1974-2009 passed away Saturday April 11, 2:00 p.m. Easter Weekend
at Royal Victoria Hospital Barrie after a 6 month battle with
cholangiocarcinomas, a rare untreatable disease, giving no warning, until stage
four .

For more information or dedication, please click on his photo.

Tim, you were such a special person and I had the great opportunity of working with you and getting to know you.I will remember your humour and professionalism and how you put others before you.Many blessings to your family during this time and though it's hard and you'll be greatly missed, I'm so glad to know you're not in pain anymore.

Shannon Murree

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Women & Health: Right Here at Home In Canada

2009-04-15T10:52:00.005-04:00

Good day fabulous ladies (and men if you happen to read this, good day as well!)
This blog is going to be geared more to my fellow Canadian ladies but if you're a man reading this and perhaps want to pass on any information to your girlfriend, spouse/partner - please feel free!

Anyway, interesting information I found today. I had some questions about health stuff I was feeling/experiencing and turned to good ol' "google". It really does take a bit to filter out the stuff you really need. I consider myself fairly comfortable by nature with techonology so if you're not, I can totally see how it would be an indimidating process!

I digress....I came across a website by the Government of Canada outlining a mandate for them. The following is a direct quote from their website:

The Women's Health Strategy is an integrated framework for addressing major
women's health issues. It consolidates Health Canada's current and new
initiatives. The Strategy has seven main attributes: it is balanced, respectful
of diversity, egalitarian, evidence-based, coherent, multi-sectoral and
incremental.
The goal of the Women's Health Strategy is to improve the
health of women in Canada by enhancing the responsiveness of the health system
to women and women's health.
To meet its goal, the Strategy is organized
around four main objectives which are intended to bring about changes to the way
Health Canada discharges its major responsibilities: its leadership, networking
and coordination roles; policy development; research, surveillance and data
collection activities; regulatory functions; direct service delivery; and its
work to promote health and prevent disease.
Source link here Health Canada Website here

Wow! Really? Fortunately, I have a great family Doctor but I know there are others whom are not so great with us. She (yes, thank goodness it's a woman because she knows and understands....I wish there were more women Doctor's). However, I had an Obgyn whom was just a jerk. I'm sorry but there's no other way to say this. He WAS nice when I first met him and he helped me with all three children. However as time went on I noticed how much he changed and any "customer service" went out the window as he became busier. He became actually dismissive when I noted my needs and health concerns. Now I am not a complainer. I know my body and try not to even take Tylenol or pain meds if I don't have to. Anyway, he totally disregarded my complaints and that it was "all in my head". How many times has this happened to you?

Well, I don't want to start my day on a negative. This is for informational purposes only. So, I'm glad to see the Government & Health Canada recognize women as requiring special needs and assessment for Health. Baring children and all the stresses we endure really does put a toll on our bodies. Also the fact that we always seem to put everyone else's needs first and then our own. It really is about balance and trying to find it. We're not good to anyone else if we don't take time for ourselves and there's no shame in that.

I'm going to post some links regarding women's health. If you have symptoms of something and have questions, before you see a Health professional, perhaps you can find something here. Or, perhaps you met with your DR and he/she didn't really have the time to explain something and you have more questions. I hope someone finds them useful. Please DO see a Health Professional though as this should not be a replacement of this. Again, just for informational purposes only.

And on a personal note from my experience....don't cause added stress to yourself worrying! Find out first from the Dr (and DON'T be afraid to get multiple opinions). I got information overload once and got several opinions before I did something. I found out it wasn't as bad as I thought (or told by one Dr). I had an operation and seem to be doing better! ;)

http://www.womenshealthcanada.com/

http://www.womenshealthmatters.ca/index.cfm

http://www.cwhn.ca/indexeng.html

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/

http://womenshealth.com/

http://womenshealth.about.com/

http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/

Have a great day!

Shannon Murree for...

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Happy Easter!

2009-04-12T18:05:00.001-04:00

However, how you celebrate or whatever you believe in, I hope you have a wonderful, blessed day.

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For Ladies Only Gifting Clubs...

2009-04-12T17:59:00.002-04:00

For Ladies Only Gifting Clubs

Modeled on the success of home party sales, a series of "ladies only" pyramid schemes, which are known by the names "Circle of Friends," "Women Helping Women", the "Gifting Club", "Heart to Heart", "Gifts for Charity", "Renewal Celebration", "Women Empowering Women," "Women's Empowerment Network", "Women for Women," and the "Dinner Party," are represented as a gathering of women helping one another by "gifting" money through a tiered structure.
Recruiting material for some of the groups talks about a goddess and sisterhood and offer an interstate conference-call system to keep members in touch.
The system appears to be active in several circles and professions ranging from realtors, hairdressers, professors at universities to employees of school boards, courthouses and numerous businesses.
A lot of professionals as well as middle-and upper-class people are involved, people one would assume to be smarter than that. Even several male and female police officers in Auburn, Maine, were suspended or forced to resign after spending $2,000 to join the local "Changing Lives" pyramid scheme.

So, please use caution. Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions and if it sounds too good to be true, it's probably a scam.

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Outrage At the Treatment of Women (*warning-disturbing Video)

2009-04-10T16:31:00.009-04:00

I came across this video a few moments ago. It is extremely sad and disturbing to me. I am feeling both grateful and guilty. Really, why am I feeling guilty? Because I was blessed and fortunate enough to be in a Country that I am? I'm not bringing this pain to the women and do they really have any choices to leave?

Anyway, it leaves me to feel, what is my purpose here? It doesn't feel like enough for me to wake up every day do my scheduled daily things and then just come home feeling satisfied that I had a productive day at work, have great clients/friends/family, etc. Something or someone (whatever your beliefs are) is telling me there is more and a greater purpose. I need to leave this world with the satisfaction that I used my voice and words to make a difference.

It's no secret that I too, as Independant as I am, was in an abusive relationship once. Note the word ONCE and that was enough history that I need to have. With every fibre of my being, I will never let that happen again. I had never been in one before so why settle and accept being told what to do by a husband (my first one in my twenties....not the man I'm with now) as a young adult? Anyway, I digress.... What I remember from that experience because it was in another Country, I ran to the police station and they brought me right back home in the back of the pickup truck, for all the neighbours to see, knocked on the door and said to my husband "here's your wife, you need to deal with her and take care of your business". I remember feeling like I was someone's property. If you haven't been in a situation like that can you imagine the humility I felt? Wow. I'm fortunate I had my family here in Canada (most notably my grandmother) to get me out....alive.

Anyway, this blog is not about me. If you're reading this and in any abusive situation verbally, physical or otherwise, evaluate your self-worth and if children involved - don't pass on the pattern of behaviour. You ARE valued and loved. You ARE worth something and a human being. Don't try to argue back and get defensive because it's totally a control thing and the abuser will never get it. They will never change and they're not respecting you. There is a better life for you....there is a LIFE for you. Just GET OUT. Go to another City, Province, whatever! Start over, get a new life and don't believe he/she will ever change no matter how much they promise you.

My heart goes out to all of you. My heart goes out to 22 year-old Fatima, the woman in this video.
Here's an exerpt: 22-y old Fatima who has been abused and injured by her cruel husband in Herat. Her toes were cut off by her husband, she was burnt by hot water, he hair were pulled...

I will not post the photos here. You can google "Rawa Org" if you wish but I warn you, it's extremely disturbing.

So, I will end on this note that as my wonderful man is calling me for dinner that he's lovingly prepared for this Good Friday/Easter (and calling me now so I better run......) I will say a prayer and blessing for all and have my moment of gratitude. I did not mean to post as a matter to make anyone depressed (sorry) or for this to be a dark blog. I hope that it's just for you to realize that no matter what challenge you may be facing today, rise above it and look at it as a challenge to overcome and there are better days and most certainly things could be worse. That's what I will take from this.

More happy blogs later I promise! Have a wonderful Easter, however you celebrate if religious or not!

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YES. I. CAN (and will)

2009-04-10T14:02:00.006-04:00

These are also my words for today. Here's what I'm thinking:

I CAN do anything I put my mind to.
I will NOT accept anything less than mediocre and will not settle or compromise my beliefs or what I believe I can achieve.
I WILL be a positive influence and role model.
I WILL be successful (measured by my own definition...not as defined by others)
I WILL be financially independent
I WILL be organized
I WILL be able to manage my time to allow me to volunteer more to those areas that truly allow me to feel my sense of purpose and fulfillment
I WILL spend more time with my partner and family and not feel guilty about it, while not changing the quality of service I offer.
I WILL accept financial responsibility for the things that are happening and ensure things will not be repeated or unnecessary spending & stick to budget.
I WILL dedicate to have one or two vacations a year.
I WILL accept things as a challenge and not defeat. I shall persevere and be a better, strong person for it.

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Some Thoughts for the Day....

2009-04-10T13:49:00.002-04:00

'May today there be peace within.. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.'

Came Across this Video...inspirational for this Generation...or rather "LOST GENERATION"

and this one inspired by another girl:

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I'm Back! Hello Fellow Empowering Women - What an eye opener!

2009-04-09T13:25:00.002-04:00

Hello fellow empowering women. Did you miss my updates?

Well, what an eyeopener Cuba was. It was a much needed opportunity for r & r and I can honestly say I feel refreshed and rejuvenated. I've been back a few days now and as much as stressful situations have come at me, I'm doing my best so my shoulders remain down and not at my ears. That of course, is when the headaches and frustrations start, right ladies?

I know you know what I mean. We wear so many hats don't we? I was reflecting on that while I was away and trying to figure out how I can keep this sense of peace with me upon return to this thing we call life. When did it become necessary for us to become overscheduled and crazy? How many times have you said to your friends you can't make something because career,activity or family had to be the priority. I know that I can say I feel a tremendous personal guilt to disappoint someone but it's just the way our lives have become. So, to my friends, I'm sorry that I just can't be everywhere at once and if I've disappointed you, it's not that I love or respect you any less. We should try one big summer thing and maybe that will solve that :)

Anyway, Cuba was wonderful. Thank goodness I spoke Spanish as I don't know how some people get by. My suggestion, if you go in with lower expectations, you won't be disappointed...especially with the customer service aspect of it. I'm glad we chose the hotel we did as it seemed to be one of the better ones and though rated 5 star, I'd give it a 3 1/2 to 4. Also grateful we did a google search to find out food is, on average, "bland" so we brought along a mixture of spices & condiments. (Don't worry about bringing back in the Country, we left them for the locals & gifted to staff).

We went to Varadero & Havana. Between Jay and I we brought a suitcase each of gifts and presents. It's such a different world there. They're so exclusive and because of the embargo, just really don't have anything. Their gratitude was amazing. We brought them skipping ropes, bubbles, soap, antibacterial soap, baby wipes, makeup remover wipes, tissues, deodorant, eyeshadows, lipsticks, gum, toilet paper. Sounds odd I know but they're things they either can't get there or really, really expensive. It was very rewarding to outside some of the children's classes and give them gifts. We'd also be walking down the street and give them to unsuspecting people playing at their homes or waiting for buses.

Question for you and it's going to be really, really personal....have you ever tried to go #2 while squatting because you don't sit on the toilet seat? Okay, so usually if there's no toilet seat cover you'd cover with toilet paper right? Okay well there, they don't supply toilet paper NOR were there any toilet seats in public places (only in the hotel). So what else would you suggest? Yeah, can we say awkward? Check out the hand dryer in the bathroom stall I included as a photo. It was hilarious but again, a luxury item. Boy do we take things for granted!

Canada, I may complain at times, but thank you. I love my Country and grateful for our luxuries.

I also must say that I was impressed (I included a photo) to see a female officer. I took a photo and glad she was able to accomodate me. She was the only one I saw and in a Communist Country was impressed to see it's progression of a woman in the field :)

More later. I must run to get ready for the Ballroom Blitz. Our dress give-away is going well. I met a very lovely girl whom stood out and overcoming many obstacles. I was so happy I was assigned to be her personal shopper and was in tears by the time she left. I fell in love with her and if she ever wanted me to be her big sister or mentor, she can call on me anytime for support.

Well, I'm happy to be back and hope you all have a very successful and blessed day. I will update more later!

Last Post As I'm On Vacation!

2009-03-25T02:19:00.003-04:00

Everyone needs a little r & r. What's your favourite thing to do?

At some point we all need to get rejuvenated and refreshed. It's been seven (7) long years and looking forward to reconnecting with my loved one. We seem to give 100% to everything that unfortunately we can inadvertantly take advantage of those closest to us.

I'm looking forward to it and as always, looking forward to a new, fresh perspective. I absolutely love what I do, love my friends, clients, family but have to love me more. Not in a selfish way and if you're a women reading this, there's nothing wrong with that. We give so much to everyone else, there's nothing wrong taking time for ourselves. We're not super woman/man and need to know our limits.

So, I'd like to leave you with a challenge. Write daily at least three things you're grateful for. Even if you're having a really rotten day, look inside really deep and force yourself to write down three things. Hopefully as you look outside at the sunshine, you'll have a smile on your face and gain a different perspective on things. Challenge yourself, love yourself and you'll be able to find the inner strength to get you through.

Love and be loved. Hope you have a wonderful, life altering week!

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Public Service Announcement - Could This Be You?

2009-03-22T20:32:00.003-04:00

I came across this interesting video that is a Public Service announcement. I have to caution you that it is a little disturbing but it's an account of what happened that night (from Police records) between Chris Brown and Rihanna. Like I said in my earlier post, she needs to set an example and I'm glad to see that I'm not alone in this thinking. They're in the spotlight and A new video by the teen organization DoSomething.org features actors recreating the pop star's grim, highly publicized confrontation with her boyfriend, singer Chris Brown.
A young man and woman re-enact details from a Los Angeles police affidavit alleging that on Feb. 8, Brown punched, bit and choked Rihanna until she nearly lost consciousness.
A narrator describes the scene in a deadpan voice.

Below is an quote from Nancy Lublin, chief executive officer of DoSomething.org. :

"The brief clip can be viewed on YouTube. It closes with the statistic that one in three teenagers is abused in a relationship, and promotes free bracelets _ one blue, two black _ that spread awareness about dating abuse.
Lublin said the goal is to make people think and change their behavior. The organization used white actors on purpose to shift the conversation away from the celebrity singers."

"The public is very focused right now on Chris and Rihanna," she said. "I think people need to realize that this is an issue that goes beyond those particular people, and it affects everybody of every race. And so we wanted this to not be an exact re-enactment. We wanted instead to say: Could this be you?"

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Kids, Money & Our Responsibility

2009-03-19T10:11:00.004-04:00

**this is a re-post and credit to Heather Locus** I share the EXACT same view on this which is part of my emphasis and reason for "EMPOWERING WOMEN * INSPIRING CHANGE"

Credit cards, college debt, a sense of entitlement… These issues are considered to be large contributors in why Generation Y has become our least financially fit generation to date. An interview in the Journal of Financial Planning with Elisabeth Donati, Founder and Executive of Creative Wealth International, offered the following insights about younger generations and their growing money troubles.

Young adults under 25 are now the fastest growing age group filing bankruptcies. Less than 10% of high school graduates are taking any courses on personal finance. College suicides are thought to be on the rise in large part due to financial struggles. As parents or role models of younger generations, it is our responsibility to lead by example in our own financial lives. It is also important that we take steps to educate and communicate with our children to set them up for their own successful financial futures. This initiative yields several questions.

When? When do we begin talking to our kids about money? Experiences have shown that in general, the earlier the better. An individual’s emotions and subconscious outlook on wealth are formed within the first twelve years of a person’s life. Feelings of scarcity or abundance and thriftiness or generosity are generally established at a young age and will continue to exist in the underlying foundation of a person’s attitude towards money regardless of future life changing events.

What? What information do we share with our children? This question is not as difficult when dealing with younger kids, but becomes more complicated as they grow older. With younger children, it may be sufficient to teach them the value of a dollar, emphasize the importance of saving, and maybe share the significance of monetary gifting.

These values should continue to be reinforced as children grow older, but with young adults the question arises as to how much should be shared about the family’s financial situation. Many people these days are more comfortable talking with their children about the birds and the bees than they are discussing personal financial issues. While each family’s answer to the question of what information should be shared will be different, the important point is to make sure that you do not avoid addressing real-world, adult financial topics. College planning may be a stimulus for discussion. Negotiating for a child’s first real job or first home purchase could spark conversation. Regardless, it is imperative that you share your experiences and at least lay the groundwork for serious discussions about your family’s wealth management plan.

How? How do you effectively instill in your children appropriate values and education about money? My best advice: be proactive and be creative. Do not wait for your children to make mistakes before addressing financial concerns. If you do not feel qualified to discuss an issue, work with your financial advisor to plan the best approach or message. Creatively teach the concept of budgeting to your children at an early age. If they have $3 of spending money left at the water park they can either have a hot dog or another ride on the slide – but they cannot afford both. You can help your newly driving children build good credit by having them open a credit card solely for gas purchases (and then of course ensuring that they are paying it off in full each month). For older children who move back home, you could charge “rent” to help them adjust to paying monthly expenses, put that money into an appreciating savings account and then allow them to use that money towards their first month’s payment when they are ready to move out on their own.

Ultimately there are no definitive right or wrong answers when it comes to teaching our younger generations about money. Without a doubt, our biggest mistake would be to disregard Generation Y’s growing financial problems. When just setting a good example is not enough, it is important that we take the time and energy to educate and communicate with the kids in our life to help foster healthier financial futures for everyone.

Bloggers note: If you click on the title it will take you to "Kids' Money" . org which provides various links, info and more suggestions. I do not maintain that site and it's only a suggestion. I also found "Ways to Teach Kids About Money" and "Money Instructor" (which had some cool printables & games), "Top Things to Know" -from CNN and "Getting Started" - From Marketwatch Feel free to Google and more suggestions appreciated. Feel free to post them here!
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Some Fantastic New Listings & Some More Coming Up!

2009-03-18T15:56:00.002-04:00

Just wanted to share that some listings are being in the works.
I've also just listed a condo for rent: http://tinyurl.com/235ferndale
Nice and spacious. So convenient that if I wanted to downsize from my home, I'd probably live there! Nice to be in a condo and not having to worry about shovelling snow, lawn maintenance and all that stuff. How liberating!

I will post more later. I just have some appts to tend to. I hope that everyone is having a great day. Enjoying the sunshine now that Spring is in the air, do you feel it?
Have a successful day!

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Can't Write Today

2009-03-17T18:02:00.004-04:00

Sorry, I'm not having a great day personally and professionally today. Nothing particular to blog about. We all have those and what makes us grounded and humble. Tomorrow will be another day. So for now I'd love to share this poem I came across that seems to be perfect for today. I hope it helps someone too. Boy, that "Author Unknown" seems to have a poem for a lot of things :)
Blessings!

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A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape,

but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

A strong woman isn't afraid of anything,

but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear.

A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her,

but a woman of strength gives the best of herself to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future.

A woman of strength realizes life's mistakes can also be God's blessings and capitalizes on them.

A strong woman walks sure footedly,

but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,

but a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith thats he is strong enough for the journey,

but a woman of strength has faith that it isin the journey that she will become strong.

Author Unknown

Oh My! Where Do I Start?

2009-03-12T02:07:00.006-04:00

Sorry. I've made a committment to try and keep my blogs up on a regularly basis. I don't believe in editing content as the idea is to post your thoughts for that day. Anyway, here's a blog I did that I accidentally left in the drafts folder. Outside of the timing, it still applies :(
Here it is below:

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Well, so much is going on and I don't know where to start. Yes I realize it's 2:00 in the morning and I should be in bed so my body can rejuvenate and rest. I just can't.

I'm feeling so much emotion today. I've also been so busy with the Ballroom Blitz Organization, trying to plan a vacation (that quite honestly I don't even feel like going on with all the stress and chaos it seems to be causing), working, socializing/networking (aka "Twittering"/Facebook), Emails etc. Wow!

In the midst of all that business and life, some sad news of what I experienced for the first time in my life today. My eldest son has been working so hard (since September) for Rep Soccer. Has anyone done this and signed up their children for this? Honestly? What a MISERABLE experience. I never, ever, ever want to see the look of disappointment and tears in my child's eyes again.

I know that people said motherhood can have a lot of joys and challenges. When they're younger we're able to help them by kissing their little boo-boos, wipe their tears and give them ice cream so they can forget. How do we mend a broken heart?

For now, I will just keep telling him how proud I am, how much I love him, hug him and tell him to always do his best...no matter what. Then hopefully, he'll learn inside he did his absolute best and move onto something else? Hmm..challenges of life. Now I totally understand how my mom felt.

Jonathan my love, I know you're a teenager now and you're going to dislike me saying this publicly but I love you my son. I'm proud you're my son and the kind heart & thoughtfullness you have. That's what makes you stand out and you don't need to be a soccer pro for me to be proud of you.

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Ahhh! Time Change

2009-03-10T18:43:00.003-04:00

Well, it's been such a challenging week (and it's only Tuesday so what does that say?).

As I sit here working in the living room while honey is watching the news (ugh...don't like the news because it's so negative...they start by saying "Good evening and then spend the next hour saying why it isn't. Especially now with the ridiculous war going on...Anyway, I digress...). I'm by the window and feeling a little excited because it's 7:00 and there's still some daylight!

So the "ahhh" is a sigh of relief. Don't you feel such a rejuvenation? Spring will be in the air very, very soon. Refreshment, renewal and no more snow! I don't mind the snow but time for change :)

Anyway, short blog today. Iwish everyone much love, happiness and success. I know some days can be daunting. I read the other day, when you sleep, think of it as giving your soul the opportunity to travel. Great insight and maybe a way to feel refreshed and a new outlook or perspective on things. I don't know but I tried it last night and felt a sense of peace when I woke up today!

That's my time for now. Love to hear your thoughts.
Sm

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Impressive Things - What Impresses You?

2009-03-08T19:00:00.002-04:00

Wow! I came across this link and this child is just one year older than my son!
Just have to say INCREDIBLE! Want to share with you this inspiring, gifted and talented girl. Have you come across anyone that's impressed you? Would love to share!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKXg92atWVg

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"Happy" International Women's Day 2009!

2009-03-07T17:37:00.008-05:00

What's your story?
*Note: I could write my own but this excerpt says it best. Link is provided below this blog. I find it extremely fascinating that though we seemed to have come far, there are still significant changes we need to make. I highlighted in bold. Young women, you can never, ever give up and rest that things are okay and equal for women. They are not. We must still continue to fight until there is true equality and overcome perceptions. Anyway, I hope you'll want to share your story. Who's a women in your life that inspires you?

International Women's Day March 8th, 2009

Did You Know?

International Women's Day has been observed since in the early 1900's, a time of great expansion and turbulence in the industrialized world that saw booming population growth and the rise of radical ideologies

In 1908
Great unrest and critical debate was occurring amongst women. Women's oppression and inequality was spurring women to become more vocal and active in campaigning for change. Then in 1908, 15,000 women marched through New York City demanding shorter hours, better pay and voting rights.

Since its birth in the socialist movement, International Women's Day has grown to become a global day of recognition and celebration across developed and developing countries alike. For decades, IWD has grown from strength to strength annually. For many years the United Nations has held an annual IWD conference to coordinate international efforts for women's rights and participation in social, political and economic processes. 1975 was designated as 'International Women's Year' by the United Nations. Women's organisations and governments around the world have also observed IWD annually on 8 March by holding large-scale events that honour women's advancement and while diligently reminding of the continued vigilance and action required to ensure that women's equality is gained and maintained in all aspects of life.

2000 to present

IWD is now an official holiday in China, Armenia, Russia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Bulgaria, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Macedonia, Moldova, Mongolia, Tajikistan, Ukraine, Uzbekistan and Vietnam. The tradition sees men honouring their mothers, wives, girlfriends, colleagues, etc with flowers and small gifts. In some countries IWD has the equivalent status of Mother's Day where children give small presents to their mothers and grandmothers.

The new millennium has witnessed a significant change and attitudinal shift in both women's and society's thoughts about women's equality and emancipation. Many from a younger generation feel that "all the battles have been won for women'" while many feminists from the 1970's know only too well the longevity and ingrained complexity of patriarchy. With more women in the boardroom, greater equality in legislative rights, and an increased critical mass of women's visibility as impressive role models in every aspect of life, one could think that women have gained true equality. The unfortunate fact is that women are still not paid equally to that of their male counterparts, women still are not present in equal numbers in business or politics, and globally women's education, health and the violence against them is worse than that of men.

However, great improvements have been made. We do have female astronauts and prime ministers, school girls are welcomed into university, women can work and have a family, women have real choices. And so the tone and nature of IWD has, for the past few years, moved from being a reminder about the negatives to a celebration of the positives.

Annually on 8 March, thousands of events are held throughout the world to inspire women and celebrate achievements. A global web of rich and diverse local activity connects women from all around the world ranging from political rallies, business conferences, government activities and networking events through to local women's craft markets, theatric performances, fashion parades and more.

So make a difference, think globally and act locally !! Make everyday International Women's Day. Do your bit to ensure that the future for girls is bright, equal, safe and rewarding.

LOVE that last line. I will definitely do my part. Who's on board with me?
Shannon Murree
YES. I. CAN.

Events:

http://www.internationalwomensday.com/search.asp

Source of this inspiration:
http://www.internationalwomensday.com/about.asp

http://www.igloo.org/governancevillage

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TGIF Really?

2009-03-06T15:43:00.010-05:00

Alrighty then. So I'm sitting back in my dark office working. I promised myself that I would update my blog as regularly as I could. I re-read my blog from the other day and think perhaps I was a little harsh.

I realize she's a young girl. I just get so frustrated when I hear/see these things. I know we're human and we all make mistakes. I guess it's because I'm so passionate about women's causes that if I could just save one from getting hurt, well it would mean it's someone listening and I made a difference.

I guess for now, I'll just look at my beautiful daughter and hope that I can just be the best role model I can be for her.

Anyway, going to lighten up. So the header says "TGIF" does that really apply to REALTORS? Sure it means thank goodness it's friday so I can do some open houses and have the opportunity of meeting more clients!

I hope everyone has a great weekend.

I feel Spring is in the air. It's a great time to buy a house because prices have found a balance and interest rates are the lowest they've ever been!

TGIF and make it a great weekend :)

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Celebrities That Don't Take Their Roles Seriously...

2009-03-04T00:06:00.008-05:00

Okay, usually I'm respectful of celebrities personal lives. I have a few friends that are celebrities and frankly, it's just their job and their professional lives are not usually a reflection on whom they are personally.

I will refrain from using CAPS but I am extremely annoyed. Annoyed that a girl such as Rihanna (she's a singer in case you don't know whom she is) that was recently "allegedly" assaulted by Chris Brown (another celebrity singer). Yes, they are high profile celebrities and influence on young people. Their images were everywhere when this incident happened. I recall my eleven year old daughter coming home to tell me it's what they were all talking about at school.

I just learned today they're back together. Classic denial. I have lost all respect. Coming from experience, if it happens once, it WILL happen again.

Rihanna, I don't know you personally but YOU are an influence to young girls everywhere. Sure, it's your "personal" life but you have such a responsibility. What kind of message are you sending girls? Seriously, I have always taken a stand on matters such as this.

I for one....am boycotting your music. You will no longer be in my home or vehicle. Extreme? Perhaps. I don't respect what you are doing and will not permit you to be any influence to my children when you are clearly sending the wrong message.

I will pray for you and find encouragement and strength. Self-love and empowerment.

I am very disappointed in women taking two steps back....

Girls or women. If you are in an abusive relationship GET OUT. You are never alone and if you cannot turn to a family member, there are organizations and shelters. Most especially if you have children, look at them and be the example to these little eyes looking up at you. Abuse only escalates. By staying, you're basically saying it's okay to happen. If it escalates, well, you may not be around any longer for those little eyes to look up to you. I am not a professional on matters like this but from personal experience. I had the strength and support to get out. We're smart women in this day and age with many resources.

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EDITED NOTE: I neglected to add some very important links. I met a woman today whom said she read my blog! So if this IS going to make an impact then I need to be responsible and help educate. If you're in an abusive relationship and don't know where to turn there are places to help you in the community. You are not alone....don't be afraid to ask for help but you MUST get out of your situation, be strong and survive.
Women & Children's Shelter (Barrie) http://www.barrieshelter.com/index.html

Directory:
http://www.youthhavenbarrie.com/Directory.html

211 Directory:
http://www.211ontario.ca/

An Open Letter - Dear Grandma

2009-02-12T11:58:00.007-05:00

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Dear Grandma,

I usually don't cry. I mean, I will tear and sensitive to some things but otherwise don't. Why am I tearing as I eat a cream cheese and lettuce sandwich?

Why, because I remember as a little girl you'd make it for me. You introduced me to it and said to keep an open mind and I'd like it. You were right. I LOVED it. Then you'd change it up sometimes and put cucumbers instead of lettuce. Funny thing as I got older and tried to duplicate it I'd say "Granny, why can't I ever make them as good as yours"? "That's because I'd use pineapple cream cheese and you use plain", you'd respond. I always disagreed with you on that point (I should know better than that) but only because it was the 70's and the company wasn't creative enough to make the flavour stuff like they do now did they? Besides, I don't really like pineapple too much because I find it too sweet. Hmm...I don't remember the sandwiches tasting sweet.

Anyway, what's the reason for this post? I don't have a valid one. Don't need one. I was just thinking of you and I just wanted to let you know. No matter how busy I was, or wasn't, I used to be able to pick up the phone for no reason at all and say "hi granny, everything's ok...I just wanted to say hi". Then we'd exchange the "I love you's" and "bye" and that's all we needed to get each other through the day. You always told me I was your favourite grand daughter (even though you'd always remind me that you're not supposed to say that as a grand-mother because it'd make the other grandchildren jealous). Regardless, you always reminded me how special I was, how gifted I was, and how much I meant to you as a grand-daughter because I took that second, if only out of my day to call for no reason and say hello....just because I was thinking of you and "because we could".

Well, sadly, you passed away a few years ago and I can't do that anymore....at least in person. So this will have to do..

On behalf of achieving my goal to implement and establish YES I CAN by "Empowering Women, Inspiring Change"...thank you. Thank you for being an example of strength and being a huge part of teaching me the core values that a woman can be a woman, can be a boss, can be a wife, mother and be independent but it doesn't make her b* and it doesn't mean she loves anyone else any less. And it doesn't mean she's sacrificing anything or some radical feminist (though there's nothing wrong with that if you are). And most importantly, if someone thinks of you as a b*, or being selfish then to heck with them because they're not in your shoes, step in your footprints or live your life so they can just mind their own business! (And that's cleaning up what you really would have said because you were very direct and not afraid to say what really was on your mind) ;)

Now, for a woman of your age that grew up in a different time and era, I applaud you. Thank you, thank you, thank you for literally being my second mom. I will always and forever hold the memories I have of you in my heart and so grateful that I was blessed to have you in my life. Thank you also for saving me from that one particular situation where it probably would have cost me my life.

I love you Granny, Dorothy Pearl Parr and proudly display my middle name Pearl and passed onto my daughter for her middle name as well. I love you more than words can ever express. I will not say that I miss you because you are and will always be a part of me. So I'm just calling out to let you know that I'm thinking of you today and just wanted to say hi....

Forever yours,

your grand-daughter,

Shannon Pearl Murree

Ballroom Blitz - My Time to Volunteer Again!

2009-02-09T10:43:00.004-05:00

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Well I can't believe this is the third year for the "Ballroom Blitz". I had been asked by Robin to coordinate volunteers again for this wonderful program.

We have a dress drive and collect brand new or gently used Prom Dresses for girls that are less fortunate otherwise. Costs for one night of prom and graduating can be quite costly and those girls that work very hard, financially challenged family...miss out.

I could reinvent the wheel by retyping my thoughts on this, why I believe in it so strongly and why I volunteer my time and $....but I'll sum it up by an interview I just recently gave. If you can...please donate today...whether your time, cash donations or a dress will make a difference.

*******my interview******

I like the opportunity of giving back to young girls and my community.

My mom was a single mom and tried her best to give me every opportunity I could. Unfortunately, we didn't have things like this and I didn't go to my prom.

I'm proud to be part of something like because I can watch it from it's infancy period and grow. I'm amazed at the growth, success and increase in awareness and donations in the last three years alone. I'm grateful to be part of it and coordinate the volunteers. I look forward to see how big the Ballroom Blitz organization is in 10 years even!

Actually, it's sad that parents and families are in the financial situation they are and that there's the need for Ballroom Blitz at all. However, the girl's work hard and every girl, no matter what financial background deserve to celebrate their successes and probably have to work even harder to get there. They should be able to enjoy that one special night and not be segregated. They deserve it as much as anyone else...if not more for the challenges they face. I just hope they remember and give back and the "pay it forward" system. All good things come back around.

I realize we're not saving the world but we're changing one. We're giving back and ensuring the girls know they're special and deserve to be princesses for more than just a day. I hope this empowers them as they enter College, University or the work force.

Sincerely,
Shannon P Murree, Sales Representative
RE/MAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage
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Toronto#: (416) 362-7100
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Calling All Women - Did You Know? What are you waiting for?

2008-08-02T19:19:00.005-04:00

1 out of every 2 marriages ends in divorce and on average, in the first year after the divorce, the woman’s standard of living drops 73%
Of the elderly living in poverty, 3 out of 4 are women, yet 80% of them were not poor when their husband were alive
58% of baby female boomers have an average of only $10,000 set aside for retirement
47% of women over the age of 50 are single Nearly 7 out of 10 women will at some time live in poverty.

These statistics are not to scare you, but to say it’s time we, as women, prepare for our financial well-being. We can no longer afford to be financially illiterate. The price is simply too great.

Too many women, no matter what age, find themselves in dire financial straights whether it be divorce, death of a spouse or simply no planning. Why? Because many of us have not been educated about money and investing. It's not about how to buy car insurance or save pennies at the grocery store. Nowadays, we're smarter than that.

Now is the time to take control of our financial lives and not just cross our fingers and hope that someone else is looking out for our financial future.

One last statistic: 90% of all women have sole responsibility for their finances within their lifetime, yet 79% of all women have not planned for this.

There is no time like the present. Mind your own business: build and keep your asset strong. Once a dollar goes into it, never let it come out! Let your cash flow grow.

Discover your Mission, Passion and Purpose.
Map out where you want to go and what you'll need to do to get there.
Create an individual strategy to become secure, comfortable, and rich.
Strive to surround yourself with successful, positive and influencial people.

The Inception of Empowering Women, Inspiring Change

2008-05-05T15:29:00.005-04:00

The Inception; the idea; the incorporation....the beginning.

So I've come up with the idea of "Empowering Women" website not only for niche marketing but because:

There's a definite need.
We need a resource tool!

It's not meant to intimidate men in any way shape or form. However, women truly drive marketing and business.

When I'm showing houses, usually the man will not see a home until his wife approves. Many times a man can see the home, absolutely think it's great and want it to be "the one". Then he'll bring his partner and she'll just have that special look and he knows he's doomed. Face it, if momma isn't happy, no one will be happy!

Also, let's take a look at the power of women. Now this is not a "bra-burning" society now but as women, we have come a long way! There are still in many ways though room for improvement. I'm not blind to see that there are still many other ways that we're behind as far as equality but it is definitely better! We have more choices and not just meant to be "barefoot and pregnant" and locked up in our houses.

We are seeing a continuous evolvement. We are seeing more women in power; women as higher income earners; women with many hats; single, wife, partner, mother, business owner, etc.

I don't want to get into everything I'm thinking all in one shot or else this will be a very long blog. I will however end on the note that I'm very happy with working on something that I truly believe in. I look forward to the growth of "TheEmpoweringWomen.com"website, as a resource tool and what it will mean to many people. A Community of sharing, networking and caring. Building Relationships.